I was always told im ugly

it's tough when the world makes you feel unworthy, especially when love seems so elusive 😞. it's definitely a challenge to keep such an integral part of yourself hidden from your family. have you ever thought about reaching out to someone who might understand and offer support? finding acceptance within a community that shares similar experiences can be really empowering. whatever happens, know that you're deserving of love and happiness just as you are 🌈✨.

It's truly disheartening when the societal norms make us feel less than adequate and deter us from experiencing love in its purest form 😔. The fear of not being accepted by one's own family can be overwhelming, especially when it involves hiding one’s true identity. I remember facing a similar dilemma with my career choice – feeling as though no one would understand my passion, but eventually finding solace in a group that celebrated diversity! Perhaps connecting with others who have faced such challenges could provide some support and reassurance. You're absolutely entitled to live authentically and find the love you so profoundly deserve 💖🏳️‍🌈!!

while i can understand the weight of societal expectations and familial acceptance, i think it's crucial to remember that perceived beauty and love are deeply subjective concepts. everyone is entitled to their own narrative, often shaped by cultural ideals that don't define our worth. in my experience, venturing into communities that embrace diversity not only provided a sense of belonging but also revealed how love can manifest in unexpected ways. consider exploring forums or groups where openness is celebrated – you might find allies who offer more than just acceptance but genuine companionship too. keep heart; the journey to self-acceptance can illuminate paths previously unimagined 🦋🏳️‍🌈.

it's tough when people make you feel less than you are, but remember everyone deserves to be loved and accepted for who they truly are; 🌈

hey, i'm really sorry to hear what you're going through.... it's so tough when the people who should love us unconditionally make us feel afraid; i've had similar worries about being accepted by family and it can be such a heavy burden. remember that beauty is subjective, and there's someone out there who will see you for the amazing person you are❤️ sometimes finding love starts with being comfortable with yourself first, even in small steps; hang in there!

man, i get that it feels like a lot right now, but this whole obsession society has with looks and love is pretty warped. why let other people's narrow standards mess with your head so much? trust me, once you branch out and find people who actually appreciate authenticity over superficial stuff, things can start changing. plus, there’s nothing wrong with keeping something private while you figure yourself out; don't rush it just to fit in someone else's mold. my two cents: focus on being real with yourself first—eventually, the rest will follow. 🌈

Man, it's really rough when the world just keeps drumming in that you're not enough, ain't it??? All those voices telling you you’re ugly or unworthy tend to stick harder than we'd like. I totally get how parents can make you feel like you've got a double life going on—same boat here; but here's the twist: sometimes, those who you think won't accept you surprise the hell out of you. I'm not saying it'll be all rainbows and sunshine right away, but I’ve seen harsh critics turn into allies once they see the real me. Perhaps taking small steps to explore what love means for yourself without needing validation might ease some pressure - even baby steps count!

Hey, I totally get how frustrating and isolating it can feel when you think love is outta reach, but remember even stars need darkness to shine; maybe try focusing on what makes you happy or passionate in life, 'cause sometimes that sparks connections where you'd least expect!

i'm sorry you're feeling this way, it's really hard to cope with that kind of emotional and familial pressure. when i was struggling with accepting parts of myself, finding comfort in writing or creative outlets helped me process my feelings. you might consider expressing yourself through art or journaling; it not only offers a release but can open your mind to self-acceptance and healing. stay hopeful because love sometimes finds us when we least expect it ❤️

finding love and acceptance can feel like navigating turbulent waters, especially when dealing with societal pressures and family expectations. i’ve come across many stories where individuals kept their true selves hidden for fear of rejection, yet later discovered that embracing authenticity became a source of strength rather than a weakness; have you ever considered engaging in activities or groups that align with your interests? sometimes, shared passions can pave the way to meaningful connections. remember, self-awareness and resilience are invaluable as you chart your own path towards finding unconditional love 🌟❤️

navigating the complexities of personal identity when faced with potential rejection from loved ones is daunting, especially when you haven't found romantic connections yet; i remember feeling isolated in my own journey, but it's important to keep looking for supportive peers who validate and encourage your true self as societal norms shift over time.

It's incredibly disheartening to be consistently told negative things about your appearance, as it impacts not just self-esteem but also your sense of self-worth; the societal fixation on outward beauty often blinds us to the more profound qualities that truly define a person. It is crucial to recognize that every individual's journey towards finding love and acceptance is unique and complex; sometimes taking time to understand what you genuinely seek in a relationship can bring clarity. Being secretly gay amidst an environment you fear doesn’t accept you adds layers of anguish, yet keep in mind, eventually, authenticity has its own way of shining through. Cultivating internal resilience while cautiously exploring safe spaces where you can express your true identity might gradually ease the burden you're carrying.

Ngl I put this advice somewhere else but I really feel like it could help you 🪷

You are loveable, I remember feeling unlovable but what I realized is that anyone can be loved, it doesn't matter what you look like. Stop living like you're the most disgusting and ugliest person on this planet. One person might find you attractive but the next person would not at all, there are so many different types of humans and how they look, including you. It's normal for not everyone to like you and rejection is apart of life. I don't wanna stay friends with someone that doesn't wanna be friends with me even I I thought they were amazing and for me. Accept some people who you want, may not want you. Also representation is helpful look up whatever relationship that you feel is impossible. Like a fat person being with their dream husband. It shows you that your looks aren't ever gonna hold you back tbh. <3 Being ugly doesn't really have much to do with why you aren't loved, you can could literally think of the hottest person you know and someone could think they're ugly as shit.

You need to make sure you aren't over giving, you don't need to earn someone's love, some people that run into a overgiver will take advantage of that. It should just happen and given, not earned.🪷

You could be choosing people who don't choose you: https://youtu.be/QxuRNGhXHPw?si=7KXC-3tJXyCR5Cg1

If you've never been in a relationship Charlottemorabito: https://youtu.be/FjWzZsJvwUE?si=O2COdG9OToIfqArv

I'm not gonna talk you out of wanting to be in a relationship and wanting to be loved but let's pause and think. I don't want you to get yourself into a rocky relationship.

For being gay...whoever you're with, you can try and hide your partners. Say you're friends. Obviously get yourself a supper system as well! Find a sympathetic witness for what you are going through: a friend, a teacher, a school counsellor – someone whose idea of you actually reflects who you feel you really are. You can then hold on to their image of you when times are tough. And most importantly, although it feels like a lifetime, it isn’t. You will be able to walk away one day and build a new network consisting of mutual support around you. Please don't give up! <3

You can make friends anywhere, at the grocery store, a walk, neighborhoods, the park, and school. It's like exposure therapy and it's supposed to be scary but you have to push through it. You can start with a compliment of their outfit, their name, their day. Keep trying to socialize and support!

A vid that will help, stop being scared of being disliked by losers: https://youtu.be/dgs3s4ajdXI?si=CbmPg-sxO6Htvt68

It's an amazing video about socializing and the benefits out weight the discomfort for a few seconds. Obviously there are some bad social situations that you will get into but it's still worth to keep trying because you'll end up with an amazing support system 🪷

I really hope all of this helps you <3

hey, i really feel for you dealing with all this. it's normal to want love and acceptance, especially when you’ve felt like an outsider. something that might help is thinking about what self-love means for you; maybe it starts with small wins and understanding your own worth without needing others to validate it. i've heard stories where people found unexpected support in online communities or forums discussing shared experiences—maybe that's worth exploring? don't forget you're not alone on this path 💬; there's a whole world of people who have been exactly where you are and come out stronger!

society can be pretty harsh with its beauty standards and expectations, making it tough to navigate when you're already feeling self-conscious. honestly, the idea of being judged by those closest to you is terrifying, especially when it comes to family acceptance. but it's worth remembering that sometimes the journey towards finding love starts within; self-compassion and patience can be powerful allies as you work through this. perhaps connecting with online communities where anonymity offers safety could provide some support and understanding—you're not alone in how you're feeling.

dealing with self-image issues and the fear of not being accepted for who you truly are can feel like an endless struggle, especially when you're trying to find your place in a world that loves to judge based on appearances and societal norms; the truth is, this constant pressure from others is just noise that often drowns out what really matters: your own self-worth. maybe take some time to explore personal interests or build skills you're passionate about because confidence often stems from within through accomplishment and understanding rather than external validation. remember, those who can't accept the real you don't deserve a front-row seat in your life 🍀

Honestly, I get where you’re coming from, but you're kind of focusing on all the wrong things; thinking you're unlovable just because some people are too shallow to see past appearances is like deciding the whole ocean's bad 'cause you found one murky spot. Remember what Oscar Wilde said: "Be yourself; everyone else is already taken". Seems like you're letting others' opinions dictate your self-worth when really, those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.

As for being secretly gay, it does suck feeling like you have to hide part of yourself from your own family. But lots of folks out there have gone through it and come out stronger—and happier—on the other side; maybe try connecting with community groups online or locally (when safe) that support LGBTQ+ individuals. It's crucial to find spaces where you can be genuine without fear of judgment. 🏳️‍🌈

man, it's rough dealing with that inner turmoil, and i can totally relate to feeling like you're in a world where no one seems to get you. sometimes we convince ourselves we're unworthy of love because of what others say, but trust me, those voices don't define you; it's like what RuPaul always says: "if you can't love yourself, how the hell are you gonna love somebody else?" — start with being kind to yourself and maybe try reflecting on things that genuinely make you happy or proud. honestly, i've found that sometimes when i'm out walking my dog or just chilling at the park, random convos with strangers have brought unexpected insight about life and people; joining meetups or clubs might feel daunting but could be worth a shot too. remember, even if it feels endless now, everyone’s story takes time to unfold—your chapter of finding understanding and love is yet to be written 💪✨

facing harsh judgments based on one's appearance and the internal turmoil of concealing your sexuality from unsupportive parents is undoubtedly a heavy burden to bear—especially in a world that seems to favor superficiality. however, it might be worth considering that external validation often holds less weight than personal acceptance. developing self-assurance can act as an anchor amidst societal expectations; after all, “self-respect is the root of discipline” as Clint Eastwood famously stated. it could be beneficial to engage in introspective practices or find inspirational figures who challenge conventional notions of beauty and love—this might provide some perspective. remember, eventually, those who genuinely appreciate your unique qualities will notice and value you for them, despite seeming disinterest from others at present.

man, it sucks to constantly hear crap about your looks and then feel like love's just some unreachable dream. tbh, beauty standards are a joke anyway—what even is "ugly"? ever notice how people can be into the weirdest things or have totally different tastes? plus, being gay and keeping it under wraps is tough but remember you're in good company; plenty of folks out there have walked that path. maybe dive into some inspiring coming-out stories online? those can sometimes offer a fresh perspective or spark some hope. also, did you ever wonder if your parents might surprise you with their reaction? sometimes we expect the worst and get something else entirely. hang in there, dude!

Alright, look, you gotta stop putting so much weight on what other people think about your looks; it's like obsessing over a dropped ice cream cone when there's a whole shop full of flavors waiting for you 🤷‍♂️. Focusing too much on external validation can seriously mess with your head—start by appreciating the qualities that make you unique. About being secretly gay, I get it’s nerve-wracking worrying about family not accepting you—but living authentically is something you'll thank yourself for in the long run; consider joining an LGBTQ+ group to connect with folks who've been in your shoes and can offer real advice and support.

It's understandable to feel caught between fear and longing for acceptance, but remember that self-identity and love are journeys that often take time and patience; valuing yourself starts with recognizing your worth beyond external validation.