wanting someone you can't have
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it's just so complicated being around them all the time. like seriously, she's my best friend and we connect on so many levels, but her husband? he's practically got everything i ever wanted in someone. you know how some folks say 'the heart wants what it wants'? well, that's me right now. i'm crazy about him and he doesn't even know it.
when i think about the conversations we've had, the little shared jokes between us, it's like when harry met sally... but with a whole lot of wrong timing. he gets my humor and those subtle nuances that most people miss. but alas, he's bound to someone else. honestly, it's one of those things where i keep reminding myself that “patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet”.
i'm 31 years old and still caught up in this tangled web of emotions that shouldn't be happening! i mean seriously, what do you do when you realize that your ideal match is already taken? it's not easy to compartmentalize all these feelings while maintaining friendly relations with both of them. feelings are messy and not particularly cooperative.
there's also the guilt factor lurking there for intruding emotionally where i'm not supposed to be; yet somehow there's an emotional tie and i'm left questioning my own moral compass. can't share this with anyone i hang out with cause they'll freak over it or misunderstand completely (trust me i've tried). still just venting here makes it feel a bit better 😊
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wow thats tough.. once felt something similar.
I see where you're coming from, but maybe try seeing him less?
valid point! distancing might be hard though since we're always hanging out...
omg exact same smh it was painful lol
been there too!
maybe it's just infatuation? sometimes when we're close to someone in this kind of setting, we attach qualities to them because they're familiar or unavailable. i've been in a similar situation once with a coworker; it was such a mess at first! took me ages to get over it.
yeah could be infatuation or maybe just bad timing?
so you're in love with your best friend's husband?
Dang, that's a lot to untangle. 💔 Isn't it wild how emotions just refuse to play nice? You ever wonder if sharing with him would help or just make things messier? I've found myself crushing on someone unavailable too, and it's such an annoying loop of what-ifs. So I get the secret guilt part—like it's sneaky attaching strings you didn't even know existed! But hey, talking to folks who won’t judge you could lighten the load, though finding those people might be a challenge itself!!!
Okay interesting perspective... do you think you'd feel differently if he were available?
seems like you're stuck in a real emotional quagmire there, wrestling with the murky waters of unrequited feels and ethical dilemmas; i get that the heart is a famously stubborn organ, often ignoring logical pathways to beat erratically for who it pleases 😅 do you wonder whether it's even remotely possible for such feelings to fade if you're consistently around him, or would distance just amplify
hey sister i've been exactly where you are now (confusing doesn't even start to describe it). i remember having these deep convos thinking 'oh snap', maybe he understands me more than anyone else has before – the dynamics can really throw us off balance.
Years ago I found myself in love with someone unattainable as well: my gym instructor seemed perfect in every way possible. Initially I thought he understood me on another wavelength altogether (it took quite some soul-searching) only to finally reason out how much head games play tricks till time itself unveils what's below surface connections.
It's definitely a tough spot to be in. While distance can be challenging in your situation, maybe finding ways to shift focus onto things solely about your friendship with her might help. Creating some boundaries, even if they're just mental or emotional ones, could offer some relief from the constant turmoil. It's stressful when emotions get tangled up like this.
these situations truly suck... part of me thinks perhaps by continually interacting it'll cause pain while reinforcing some bizarre hopefulness hoping change could occur... people are wired weirdly aren't they?. don't know - perhaps exploring other outlets might ease things out but who knows!
oh man reminds me greatly bout tim at work back then wasn't nearly as comfortable getting anywhere near ‘em outside– causing huge pang yet hilariously naive once looking back haha
I can't help feeling you're setting yourself up for disappointment here... why not distance yourself instead? Life's too short wasting feelings on what's clearly out-of-grasp anyway!