Yay, guess i'm still single
The story
So I saw this guy a few months ago at school since we have the same club. I'm a transferee that came from an all-boys school and we're both in our second year of high school right now. I had to ask one of my close girl besties (calling this specific one AN) to help me find out what he likes so that I could hopefully ask him out, and she did find out he was gay. I got to know what he likes to eat, where he lived, how good were his grades in his classes, those kind of sorts.
Then just 2 weeks ago I planned to ask him out, and AN helped me get everything I needed just so I could hear him say 'yes'.
But when I confessed to him (calling him AR), he said he already knew and was still thinking about it. Because someone leaked my plans to him (this wasn't AN who leaked, I checked it already). I said I'd respect his decision even when he said no and until I received an answer from him directly, I'd keep my distance. And I did. Fast forward next week, and he said he didn't think we would work out.
So I continued to keep my distance from him. Then just yesterday. AN said AR asked her out.
She said yes, and said AR was straight now.
I don't know why he said no to me, not even giving it more than a week, then moving on to someone else. I still made sure to keep my distance from him (which means keeping my distance from AN as well), but I just don't think it's normal for people to take that short to move on. I just don't think it's fair that AN got to have the boyfriend that I couldn't get. Because I'm new to him. But AN and AR had a year to get to know each other.
I had a crush on this one guy back at my old school (calling him BA, yes it's the same person as the one in the story I had made a few months ago), and I don't know which is worse: having a crush on a guy for 2 years without saying it out loud to him, or finally asking someone out only for them to say no.
So it got me thinking.
Why does it still not matter?
Even when I try and put effort, or when I just love them silently,
they all find someone new. And that someone just ain't me.
When will I get to experience the joy of having someone else to love?
Because I left my family a long ass time ago.
They still can't love me.
I can deal with that.
But whenever I find someone new?
I wish we can just be together right then and there.
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Points of view
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I think you should reevaluate your friendship with AN.
You don't do that to your 'bestie'. Even if she liked AR before you came into the picture, she ought to have said something to you when you told her about the way you feel towards AR.
It's really not fair.
sometimes things just don't go as planned, and it can be tough, especially when emotions are involved; but remember that you're still figuring out your place in this new environment. it's disappointing when someone you like ends up with a friend, but maybe there's a silver lining here—you learned what you value in relationships and friendships. stay hopeful; “the best is yet to come.” keep putting yourself out there and focus on growing those meaningful connections!
That's a tough situation you're in—I'm sorry. But hey, maybe AR just wasn't the right match for you after all; people have their own reasons and sometimes things don't make sense at first. It's super frustrating to put yourself out there and not get the response you were hoping for, but try not to take it personally. Maybe AN and AR had some chemistry that developed over time? 🤔 It's important to stay open-minded about friendships and relationships—it can still lead to good stuff down the road even if it's not what you initially wanted. Don't give up on love, man! Keep putting yourself out there; you'll find someone who deserves your love and effort eventually.
it's understandable to feel disappointed and frustrated in this situation, but there might be more beneath the surface than it seems... relationships can be complex and people's feelings often change for reasons not always apparent at first glance!!! it's possible that AR simply felt a stronger connection with AN or maybe he is still figuring out what he truly wants... also, transitioning from infatuation to deeper feelings can take time, and it's okay if things don't work out immediately... keep being yourself and eventually you'll find someone who reciprocates your efforts and emotions :)
It appears that the situation you experienced is rather complex and may be rooted in relational dynamics more than personal shortcomings; perhaps AN's deeper connection with AR was a stronger factor in this outcome.