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My MIL is an unhappy person who always complains about everybody and everything. It is loke she is trained to dislike and see the worst in everybody. She gives nonstop advice. She gives shallow compliments. But she has health problems too and she just wants to be needed. I love her and am exhausted by her at the same time. I want to tell her that she is alienating everyone with her unhappiness. I wish I could help her see the good in people. It is a losing battle. I am so tired of her denigrating her son and her husband to me- they are good, honest, hard working, and loyal men. They are not the most affectionate or chivalrous but they are reliable and caring. And...after 15 years for me and 55 years for her...it is unlikely that we will be leaving these men anytime soon. Why can't she be happy with what she has? Why does she feel the need to bring me down with her constant complaining?
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It sounds like you're in a tough spot, trying to balance your love for her with the frustration of dealing with her negativity. It's understandable that you want to open her eyes to the positivity around her, but sometimes it's near impossible to change someone’s perspective if they're set in their ways. Maybe all you can do is establish some boundaries for your own peace of mind and not let her pessimism overshadow your own perception of those around you. It's exhausting though—I feel ya on that front!
Honestly? Sounds like your MIL needs a reality check!!! 😂 You can't really change someone who doesn't wanna change, you feel me?? Maybe just tell her straight up that you ain't here for the negativity!!! 💪 But remember! "Can’t please ‘em all," right??? Just keep doing you and let her sort out her own vibes. Good luck with it though!! 😅
you know, you might be giving her a bit too much credit; like seriously, if she's been this way for 55 years, do you really think she suddenly needs to be needed? maybe it's just her default setting to find fault in everything and everyone. 😂 it sounds like she's got some deep-rooted issues that aren't yours to fix; focusing on your own mental space is key! when people are stuck in their negative cycles, they sometimes don't even realize they're bringing others down with them. 🤔 ever thought about gently steering the convo toward more positive things? could work wonders for both of your sanity!!! sometimes what we see as complaints are cries for help, but again not your job to save everyone. good luck coexisting without losing your own positivity!!