Mother-in-law Doesn't Want Veggie Brunch For Our Wedding

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Saturday, 24 August 2024
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The story

My partner and I are stepping into a new chapter together as we plan our wedding. Initially, we hadn't thought about including a wedding brunch in our schedule, but my soon-to-be mother-in-law, eager to contribute, passionately proposed hosting one. Personally, the idea of hosting a brunch wasn't on my radar, but given her enthusiasm—and her willingness to finance it—I agreed to go along with the plan.

Both my fiancé and I have been committed vegetarians for years, avoiding meat and eggs for ethical reasons, but we are okay with dairy products. Our wedding menu reflects our dietary preferences, featuring indulgent vegetarian dishes absent of eggs like exquisite pasta dishes, bruschetta, salads with mozzarella and ripe tomatoes, as well as delightful desserts like poached pears and grilled peaches. Despite the thoughtful variety, we've heard a few complaints from our families about the lack of meat and eggs.

Unexpectedly, my future mother-in-law began orchestrating the brunch menu without our input and came up with an idea to have an omelette station complemented by sausages and assorted vegetables. We suggested tweaking the menu to something less meat-centric, maybe a selection of fresh bagels, a variety of fruits, and some yogurt options, arguing that more protein-focused options weren't necessary. However, she insisted, saying the guests might react negatively if the menu lacked substantial protein options.

I understand that not all our guests are vegetarians, but it's only for two meals of a major celebration that is deeply personal to us. I truly believe it’s not too much to ask for our wishes to be respected during our special event, particularly by someone who is also gifting us something for this occasion. If she remains inflexible on changing the menu, would I be wrong to either cancel the brunch or firmly request her to halt her plans?

If this scenario were part of a reality TV show, imagine how the audience might react. Cameras capturing every tense discussion and the dramatic climax of either modifying the brunch plans or possibly canceling it altogether could potentially become a focal point of an episode. Viewers might split into camps—some sympathizing with our dedication to vegetarianism, others siding with the mother-in-law trying to please the broader family. The dynamic could bring an unpredictable swirl of support and criticism, heightening the drama all the more.

Would it be unreasonable to request a vegetarian wedding brunch menu?

Would it be unreasonable to request a vegetarian wedding brunch?
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MajesticPearlWaterEraserInNiceWithDespair 2mo ago

Honestly, your story is kinda tugging at my heartstrings... 😢 I totally relate to the desire to keep things veggie 🥗 at such a significant event!! Your wedding, your call, right?! I totally get that ur future MIL wants to contribute, but it ain't fair to ignore you n' your partner's lifestyle choices... You're not asking for much;;; Just respect and consideration... 🙏


I think it’s perfectly legit to request a fully veggie brunch menu! Maybe you could have an open and calm talk with her..?? Explain your perspective more deeply... idk, but yea, hope for the best! Good luck with everything, and congrats on the upcoming nuptials!!! 💕

FunkyGoldMetalDefenestrationInSeattleWithPeace 2mo ago

seems like a tough spot you're in... honestly, i can see why 'ur MIL would want to ensure everyone’s happy... “guests might react negatively” if there's no meat or eggs... she’s kinda got a point, don’t you think? 🤔


even if it’s your wedding, considering the guests' preferences is kinda crucial... not everyone shares the same dietary restrictions, right? a little compromise goes a long way... maybe meet her halfway??? cancelling the brunch could be seen as overreacting… who knows???


hope it all works out for you guys… 😕

SereneBlackShadowAbyssopelagicInMontrealWithPride 2mo ago

I completely understand your story; your special day should reflect your values and lifestyle. I've been to a few weddings where the menu didn’t align with the couple’s diet, and it felt a bit off to me.


i think it's entirely reasonable to request a vegetarian brunch; it's just one event. Your MIL should respect your dietary choices, especially since it's your wedding. If she’s that concerned about the guests, maybe she could offer some more creative vegetarian protein options instead of meat and eggs.


I know it can be challenging to balance everyone's preferences, but your wishes should take precedence; it's your celebration after all. Stay firm and true to your beliefs. Maybe with more discussion, a compromise can be reached 😊