How do I heal from burn out?
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How do I heal from burn out? I literally feel like a complete failure and I'm so burnt out. I grew up being the smart kid who everyone copied homework off of and everyone knew I did well. But this year (year 10) has been my breaking point. I've been going through a lot of loss, family issues, and my mom almost dying and I couldn't handle all of it on top my studies so I ended up always pulling al nighters and showing up with my homework barely done because when did I ever have time for anything with how hectic my life was? Naturally I burnt out so badly and genuinely struggled to do even the easiest homework I had and kept slipping up more and more with my grades. I fell far off the top of the grade ranking (I was always used to being in the top 10) and because I grew up smart EVERYONE had something to say about it so I was genuinely just a mess and felt like a waste of oxygen. I ended up filling my emptiness with a boyfriend but he ended up just being mean and completely tore down my mental health even more and when we broke up I was even more burnt out and just kept failing at everything no matter what I did. And to be honest I started to just hate myself because all I was ever good at was school, but now I have nothing going for me anymore. The year is almost over and my ex continues to try to pry himself into my life just to make me feel bad and constantly make fun of my grades and calling me stupid all the time, so on top of all my already existing pain this year I've been having frequent panic attacks too. Now tonight is the prize ceremony and I feel like an absolute failure because it's the first year in my entire life I'm not actually achieving anything or going up there and when I went to go tell my family about it (I was very scared) they told me that they won’t be there. I just said alright and walked away because if they dont go then I cant disappoint them anyway. But it still hurts that they aren't making an effort to show up (per usual with my dad but my mom always used to try). And when I treid to vent to my brother, the only family member not making me miserable (long distance) he didn't reply. So to be honest I feel like a complete failure and I want to go back to my high grades and be a top achiever again but the burn out genuinely won't go away and I feel like I'm dying. I'm just chronically tired and just feel anxious every single day and literally cry myself to sleep every night. I'm writing this because I genuinely have no one to talk to and wanted to get it all off of my chest. How on earth do I get out of a burnout while I actively need to catch up with school? I genuinely have nothing left in me and just want it all to end
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burnout is no joke, and it hits hard when life's already throwing curveballs your way; but you gotta cut yourself some slack. nobody can push through that kind of stress without eventually crashing. it's like expecting a car to drive on fumes, y'know? your ex sounds like absolute trash and definitely doesn't deserve any more space in your head. getting back on track with school might take time and there's no magic fix, but maybe prioritize rest and set super tiny goals for yourself. taking care of your mental health has to come first; if you're not okay, nothing else really matters anyway.
you've got a lot on your plate but let's be real here, year 10 isn't the end of the road; it's tough now, but trust me, life has more to offer than just grades and academic accolades.
Dealing with burnout is tough, especially when it feels like everything's piling up at once, and honestly, year 10 can be brutal without all the extra stuff you’re going through...
hey, sorry to hear what you're going through. but have you tried talking to a school counselor about it? sometimes they can help with stuff like this.
School counselors can offer great support! Definitely worth reaching out.
You're not alone in this, but let's get real for a sec: burnout at your age sucks hard. Guess what? You're not a failure because you hit a rough patch. Life's hammering you with all this personal crap and it's no wonder you're struggling to keep up with school when you're mentally banged up. That joker of an ex needs a reality check too, like dude, leave you the hell alone already! 🤦♂️ Your family might be dropping the ball here but remember, academic ranks aren't everything and don't define your worth. Prioritize your mental health first; grades can bounce back later when you're ready to tackle them.
sounds like you're going through a hell of a lot right now and it's not surprising you're feeling burnt out. being known as the smart kid all your life can add so much pressure, especially when life's throwing more than just school your way. dealing with family issues, loss, and that annoying ex isn't a joke, no wonder you’re exhausted and struggling to keep up. it sucks when those who are supposed to support you don’t show up or seem indifferent; that’s gotta sting. it's ok to have off years and not be perfect all the time because nobody's got it together 24/7, even if they pretend they do.
sounds like you're going through the wringer, for real... :( but it will be ok, trust me!
Have you considered taking a break from everything?
It sounds like you're juggling so much, and honestly, it's no wonder you're feeling burnt out.
I totally get that burnout feels like this inescapable pit, but back when I was going through something similar, I found it helped to lean into small things that made me genuinely smile or relax, even if just a little.
It's tough when so many things come crashing down at once. Life can be overwhelming and it's okay to step back for a moment and just breathe. I'm not sure if there's one right way to heal from burnout since everyone is different. Maybe finding small moments of joy or something new outside of academics could help start the healing process.
Sounds like you're going through a lot, but honestly, feeling like a "complete failure" just because you aren't at the top anymore?
Man, that sounds like a whirlwind of crap to deal with for someone so young. You're juggling all these issues like family stuff and burnout and then school pressure on top... it's no surprise you're feeling overwhelmed. It's tough when the one thing you thought you had a grip on (grades) starts slipping because everything else is crashing down around you. I'm sorry you've got this ex who seems intent on making things worse, he's totally not worth your energy at this point. Maybe just take a breather from trying to be "the best" right now... sometimes just surviving through hard times counts as a sort of victory. Just focus on finding some small moments for yourself... they might make all the difference in getting through the day without feeling like everything's collapsing in on you again.
I definitely understand feeling burnt out, but maybe seeing it as temporary could be helpful. Sometimes stepping away briefly can recharge you more than pushing through ever would. I know it’s not easy with everything on your plate but giving yourself some grace might surprise you in finding strength to tackle things again.
ugh i feel u on the family thing... same here with my siblings always expecting top grades.
Burnout is seriously hard and feels never-ending sometimes, doesn't it? But I've heard that trying small steps like setting tiny goals each day might gently pave the way back to feeling normal again, although I'm still figuring that out myself too.
yeah ik how u feel bt takin breaks rly helps smtimes
Just hang in there!
Wow, you're going through hell right now. It's absolutely brutal when all the pressure piles up and you can't catch a break. The stuff with your family sounds really harsh; like seriously, what kind of support system is that? And that ex... just forget him, you don’t need extra drama in your life when you’re already dealing with so much. Have you thought about talking to a school counselor or someone who can genuinely help navigate this burnout thing? Even if it feels cheesy or pointless, just having someone impartial to vent to might make things at least a tiny bit lighter on your shoulders. Classes and grades can feel like the only thing that defines us but remember, it's not everything you've got going for you even if it feels like it right now. Burnout is horrible, but you'll find your way again eventually; it's a monster but one that won't stay forever.