why do people bully me?
The story
I've been thinking a lot about why people bully me. It's such an odd thing to try and wrap my head around. You know how you sometimes hear stories about kids getting picked on because they're different? I always used to think it was just something you'd see in movies but turns out, it's real life stuff.
People have told me things like 'you're too nice' or 'you care too much' and I'm like is that really why someone would pick on another person? I remember back in school days when that one kid used to throw my lunch on the floor and call me names for no reason at all. Made me wonder if they were dealing with their own issues; maybe projecting their unhappiness onto me.
Was talking with this friend once (who's had her fair share of bullies) and she said we gotta remember those folks doing the bullying often have their internal battles too. Maybe it's true? Who knows? She told me: "Don't take it personally", like thanks but easier said than done right?
One day in gym class, while waiting for our turn, a guy just randomly shoved me into a locker. At that moment, instead of feeling sad or angry, I asked him straight up why he did that... He couldn't even give a proper answer! Made me chuckle afterwards thinking how clueless some can be when confronted about their actions. So yeah, maybe people have quirky reasons we can't always understand but hey, at least we're not alone in facing this nonsense.
Stories in the same category
Points of view
I've dealt with similar things myself; people can be cruel...
Yeah but often misunderstood.
yknow its weird how ppls minds work sometimes like ive thought about why ppl bully n its kinda confusing coz u really cant understand fully what goes thru their minds u kno... maybe its sumthing from home or smtn deeper
i guess watever da case is we shud jus try to stay strong n rise above it cos everyone has sht goin on in thier lives thats tryna bringem down
seriously man, people can be so wild sometimes!!! i've always been baffled why some folks just go out of their way to make others feel bad. i used to have a classmate who'd mess with me for being quiet... like dude, what's your problem? but you know what, sometimes it says more about them than it does about us. gotta remember we can't control how others act, only how we respond to it!
ugh, that brings back memories of middle school for me. there was this one kid who always seemed to have it out for the quiet ones in our class. looking back, i remember asking my mom why he was such a jerk and she said something similar about bullies dealing with their own problems. it's frustrating how they channel it onto others but maybe that's just how they've learned to cope? hearing "don't take it personally" can feel like a slap when you're living through it but eventually you start to see it's them, not you. anyway, confronting people like you did is rare and brave; most never even think to do that! sometimes shining a light on their behavior can make them stop and think... or at least we hope so.
Maybe they are confused themselves? not an excuse of course
maybe it's just me, but i've always wondered if some folks bully cuz they don't know how to deal with their own insecurities??? like, what makes someone shove another into a locker for no good reason? maybe they've got stuff going on themselves and think pushing others around is gonna make them feel better. totally get the whole "don’t take it personally" thing being way easier said than done tho... it's tricky trying not to let that stuff weigh you down. but hey, sometimes asking them straight up might be the best move, shows you're not afraid to stand your ground!
sounds rough, man! it's weird how being nice can be seen as a weakness; people really gotta get that whole "nice guys finish last" thing out of their heads. maybe some folks just pick on others to seem more in control when they actually have no answers themselves. you asking the dude why he shoved you says a lot about your courage and good for you on doing it 👏
Bullies suck! One time a dude kept taking my books every morning like bro get a life seriously it messes with your day but then i realized they're probs unhappy inside...
It's bizarre how some folks act without any logic behind their actions...
it really does seem like a lot of bullies act without thinking about the impact they have on others. it's almost like they're just reacting impulsively rather than considering how hurtful their actions can be. i've always believed that some people lash out because they're struggling internally and don't know how to handle it properly. it can feel isolating, but confronting them sometimes actually surprises them and makes them rethink their behavior, which is a small win in itself.
i mean yeah bullies will be bullies shrug them off they aren’t worth your time everyone’s got crap just ignore em
have you ever tried asking them directly more often why they behave like that?
I actually did once and that's when he couldn't answer back!