Does life get any better?
The story
Hello,
I am currently in university and I am so fucking tired of this shit. My hobbies don’t feel like hobbies; they aren’t fun because I always compare myself to others and wish I was better. I can’t stop comparing myself to others, I am plagued by my past mistakes and actions that I have done. It’s an endless struggle of self worth and image.
For reference, I got diagnosed with autism this semester, and a lot of struggles that I faced make a lot of sense. I struggle with rage and meltdowns, and a lot of apathy. There are times where I wonder if doing anything is worth it. I want to be creative but I get burnt out so easily and won’t do anything creative for months. It’s horrible.
My self image is at rock bottom. I can’t help but worry about what I eat, and how many calories it is. I constantly worry about being fat. For context, I have never been skinny but I have never been fat either. I powerlift now and am pretty buff (I like looking masculine because I am afab nonbinary). But I still can’t help but body check and wish that I was more lean so that my muscles would be more defined. I hate, hate my body, and I hate my breasts. They aren’t that big, maybe a B, but I fucking hate them so fucking much.
People say that exercising helps with mental health. I’ve been an athlete my whole life and it seems like every year my mental health just gets worse.
And I feel so fucking ungrateful for everything. I feel like a brat because I should appreciate this life that I have been granted, but my brain pretty much only focuses on the negative.
I guess I just want to know if there is any way to relieve this pain, this emptiness that I feel when I am driving home after a long day and I want to cry but I can’t. Or if it just gets worse after university.
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Hey there, sorry for what you’re going through. It sounds really tough to battle those feelings day in and day out. I got stuck too when I was younger, always comparing myself and wishing I could do more; one thing that sort of helped me was setting small, realistic goals and trying not to judge myself so harshly. It might not work for everyone, but sometimes appreciating the little achievements can lighten the mental load a bit? And hey, have you thought about reaching out for professional help or support groups—many find it beneficial; being around people who understand can be pretty comforting! Hang in there!!! 🙌
Hey there, it seems like you're navigating quite the storm right now; I can imagine how draining comparing oneself to others can be. You might find inspiration in Epictetus' teachings about focusing on what you can control and letting go of the rest—"Wealth consists not in having great possessions, but in having few wants." 🙏 Maybe exploring different exercises or activities that emphasize self-expression without comparison could spark some joy? And while being an athlete is awesome, maybe it's not just about physical exercise; sometimes engaging with art, nature, or even meditation might provide a different kind of peace and fulfillment? Stay strong!!! 🌟
hey, i'm really sorry you're going through this. it sounds intense and overwhelming. i can relate to feeling weighed down by comparison: it's like a never-ending loop, right? when i was deep in that mindset, what surprisingly helped me was taking up journaling. jotting down thoughts without overthinking can be liberating and sometimes reveal insights about yourself you might not notice otherwise 🤷♂️ also, have you tried experimenting with your creativity without any expectations? even if it's just doodling or any low-pressure activity; it might help reignite some of that lost spark! remember, there's no rush to figure things out!! it's okay to take time for yourself and go at your own pace 😊
Hi there, I can really feel the weight in your words, and it's definitely understandable—it sounds like a heavy plate to carry. Growing up, I was constantly battling my own mind's critiques; it felt like living with an overbearing roommate who just wouldn't hush. One phrase that helped me is "progress over perfection." It’s like when you're powerlifting: focusing on form and gradual gains, not just the numbers on the weights you lift; this mindset might help ease some of the burdens of comparison! On another note, have you considered exploring sensory-friendly hobbies? Sometimes finding activities that align with our senses can be grounding and soothing—like tactile art or music therapy. Also, remember, our bodies are vessels for life experiences rather than objects for judgment. Celebrating what they enable us to do can sometimes shift perspective! You're navigating your path courageously—and every small win matters 💪
Man, that sounds like a total drag. 😕 It's like you're caught in this endless loop of self-doubt and frustration, right? Ever thought that maybe the comparisons are just society's bullshit expectations creeping in? Why not try flipping the script on them? Also, what's up with exercise making mental health worse for ya? Isn't it supposed to do the opposite??
Whoa, sounds like you're going through a lot right now, and I'm really sorry to hear that 😔 I totally get how exhausting it is feeling stuck in that loop of comparison and struggling with self-worth—been there myself back in the day.
Have you ever considered if your constant comparison to others is actually holding you back from fully enjoying your own progress and achievements?
dude, i feel ya. uni can be a real killer, especially when you're trying to juggle so much. sounds like you're wrestling with some big stuff; have you ever checked out mindfulness or meditation? it's not a cure-all but taking a few minutes to center yourself could help calm those racing thoughts. and about the body stuff, that's tough man; embracing your own version of strength is more badass than any social media hashtag on fitness goals 😉 maybe finding a community or support group that gets what you're dealing with might help ease the burden too. just remember—you're stronger than you think and each step forward counts!
Hey, I get that you're feeling stuck and it can be tough when your hobbies stop bringing you joy; maybe it's worth giving yourself permission to embrace imperfection and just enjoy the journey rather than focusing on the end result?
damn, it really sucks feeling trapped in that cycle of comparison and self-criticism; it's like you're never able to catch a break from your own thoughts;;; have you ever considered looking at things from a different angle? maybe trying to redefine what success and happiness mean for you might help shift some of that pressure; i mean, most folks get caught up with society's mold of 'ideal life' without questioning if it suits them!! also, about your creative block – sometimes breaking the routine with something unexpected can reignite inspiration...don't be afraid to venture out of your comfort zone!!! keep pushing through, you're not alone in this struggle.