why is it so hard to admit I need help?
The story
one of the most important and fulfilling things I can do in life is helping others. all I mean by helping others, is sticking by their side when things get tough, being a listening ear when needed, or whatever it is the people in my life may need me to do. however, I have always hated asking for help for myself. weather it was on a math problem at school, or lifting something heavy at home. I am an oldest child, and my mom has multiple sclerosis, and has always been through bouts of depression. this would leave her with very little energy to take care of the house or my little sister. I don't blame my mom one bit for this. she is the strongest person I know, and she has always done her best to be there for us. she is someone I aspire to be like every day. this however, makes it more difficult for me to see her completely drained some days. seeing this has made me feel like I need to step up and help her do the things she struggles with some days. i have gotten so used to this, that it feels like I need to be the strong one in my family, who keeps everyone sane when things are falling apart. I often forget that asking for help is even an option, or when I do think about it, I decide not to ask. there is a multitude of reasons why I choose not to ask for help, but the main reasons are that I don't want to burden others with my troubles, if I ask for help I feel like I am letting people down because I can't always be strong, and if I have to ask for help I have to admit to myself that I can't carry everything. I have also gotten so used to volunteering to do everything for everyone that I feel like if I stop doing that, I will be letting everyone down. recently I feel like the weight of all of this has been pressing on my shoulders, and I would rather let myself fall before burdening anyone else with my troubles. especially since I know that there are so many people out there who have it worse than me. so I tell myself that I shouldn't even be struggling with it. anyways, I just needed to get that off my chest. thank you for taking the time to read all this
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Dude, I get where you're coming from, but honestly, not asking for help because you think you'll be a burden is just gonna burn you out in the long run!!! You're only human, not some superhero who can handle everything all the time. Everyone has their breaking points and needing help doesn't make you weak or a failure; just makes you smarter for knowing your limits. I've been there too, thinking I had to keep it together when my mom was sick. It took me ages to realize it's okay to lean on people sometimes, and you'd be surprised how willing folks are to lend a hand if you let them! Just don't forget that while helping others is great, your own mental health's gotta matter too ❤️
your commitment to helping others is truly admirable!! However, it's important to remember that taking care of yourself is not a sign of weakness; it's actually an act of strength and wisdom!! 😊
It's important to remember that everyone needs help sometimes, and it's not a sign of weakness to reach out 🤔.
first off, let me say it's super inspiring how you've stepped up for your family; but dude, you're carrying a load that could break anyone's back if they're going at it alone. i totally get not wanting to ask for help, especially when you see others struggling too, yet asking ain't a sign of weakness; think of it like this: just because you're the oldest doesn't mean you gotta be the superhero who never needs a break. being there for everyone is awesome, but if you burn out, then who's gonna keep things steady? maybe try switching gears and think about how letting others help could actually make everything run smoother. it's like they say in those airplane safety videos - you gotta put your oxygen mask on first before helping others;
i really respect your dedication to supporting your family and being that pillar of strength. but you know, even the strongest structures need maintenance now and then. it's kind of like in engineering—if you don't apply stress relief techniques, things can eventually crack under pressure. giving yourself permission to seek help is like routine maintenance for your mental health; it'll keep you strong in the long run. remember, it's okay to lean on others sometimes! it's a strength, not a weakness! 😊