Bride-to-Be Battles with Critical MIL Over Wedding Choices
The story
Reading through all the tales of tricky in-laws, I thought it was time to share my own story about my future MIL, who I'm beginning to believe has a bit of a mean streak.
I'm 26, and my fiancé, who's 28, and I have been an item since our high school days. His father absolutely adores me, but his mother seems to have taken an instant disliking from the day we met. Despite my best efforts to warm up to her, she's remained cold and distant. The tension came to a head during a family dinner at their home meant to celebrate our recent engagement. While serving myself, she commented rather sharply that I should watch how much I’m eating to 'lose some weight' for the wedding. It stung because, although I'm no fitness model, I do keep active and healthy.
The saga continued when it was time to pick out a wedding dress. I had little desire to include her, but she pushed her way into the appointment. Every dress I tried, she disapproved. When I finally found "the one," she bluntly declared it the most hideous yet, claiming no man would marry me in such a gown. But I stood my ground and chose it anyway, which led to her storming out. Later, she called my fiancé, demanding he break off our engagement over the dress choice. I was livid, and after some time to calm down, I sent her a message. I told her plainly that unless she could treat me with respect, she was not welcome at our wedding.
My fiancé thinks I might be overreacting, but I believe everyone deserves respect, particularly at their own wedding.
I can only imagine how all of this would play out if it were being filmed for a reality show. With cameras rolling, her dramatic exit from the dress shop and explosive phone call might make for sensational TV, however, it could also invite public scrutiny into whether her behavior was justified or if I responded too harshly.
What do you think? Was my response too much?
Should I invite my critical MIL to the wedding?
Points of view
FunkyRedFireUmbrellaInShenzhenWithExcitement
2mo agoYo!
that future MIL sounds like a real piece of work, huh?
Can't believe she had the nerve to diss your wedding dress choice like that. Definitely crosses the line.
I mean, it's your day, not hers, right? Props to you for standing your ground and telling her where to shove it.
Ain't nobody got time for that kinda toxicity, especially leading up to such a special occasion.
If it was me, I'd have blown a gasket way before that. You did the right thing by setting boundaries, ain't no shame in that game. And let's be real, if she's actin' like that now, imagine what she'd be like later down the line if you let her off easy.
Nah, you gotta lay down the law from the get-go. Your fiancé might need a wake-up call to see how outta line his mama is, ya feel me? Just keep doin' you and hold your head high. Don't let her rain on your parade.
SnappyPurpleWoodShoesInBrasiliaWithSurprise
2mo agoyeah, that situation sounds tough, no doubt. it's always tricky when in-laws clash, but considering the history there, maybe there's more to her actions than meets the eye. perhaps try seein' things from her perspective, might help make sense of it all.
talkin' it out calmly could be worth a shot, ya know? buildin' bridges rather than burnin' 'em might lead to smoother sailin'. but hey, stay true to yourself, stand firm, yet open to findin' common ground. communication's key in these situations, so hang in there and keep your head high. who knows, maybe there's a chance for things to turn 'round.
TrippyOrangeWoodBookcaseInHanoiWithPeace
2mo agoHonestly, dealing with a difficult future mother-in-law can be a nightmare, no cap.
But sounds like you handled it like a boss, standing up for yourself when she crossed the line!
Her behavior at the dress shop was straight-up disrespectful, and no one needs that negativity on their special day. Don't second-guess your response, fam; you gotta set those boundaries early on. As someone who's seen their fair share of family drama, it's crucial to nip these things in the bud before they spiral out of control. Stay strong, keep rockin' that chosen dress with confidence, and don't let her dampen your vibe.
Your wedding, your rules—am I right? 💪👗