How to get over cheating?

I went through something similar last year; it took time but eventually trust rebuilt...

wow, that's really tough... it sounds like you're going through an emotional whirlwind! it's understandable to feel skeptical when trust has been shattered so deeply. my aunt went through something similar and she found that taking time to focus on herself rather than immediately deciding the fate of the relationship was helpful?! sometimes just stepping back and assessing how you truly feel without pressure can bring a clarity of thought; society's expectations can definitely be overwhelming, but at the end of the day, your happiness should be paramount in this situation.

it happened to me too takes long time b4 it gets better but watch out people dont change easily u kno?

Trust can be rebuilt.

Honestly, I think you should just move on quickly. Trust once broken is hard to regain and constantly doubting leads nowhere good. If he could keep up lies for so long who’s to say he won’t repeat? Maybe better off finding someone who respects honesty from start. Painful truth is sometimes closure enough.

wow, that’s a huge mess to sort through. i can totally see why you’re skeptical about trusting him again; once the trust is gone, it feels like you're wandering without a map. unraveling two years' worth of lies must feel like trying to untangle a bird's nest of wires - pretty much impossible! 🤬 and sure, some people preach forgiveness with all their heart but, after getting smacked with betrayal as deep as this one, that advice just sounds painfully naive sometimes. expressing platitudes like "just forgive and forget" seems so disconnected from reality in situations like yours where the very foundation of your relationship has been rocked by seismic deceit... who has time for that kind of oversimplified advice? maybe exploring therapy is worth considering if only to wade through these emotions at your pace rather than society's unrealistic timeline'; it gives you time to decide if there will ever be space in your life for reconciliation or if it’s better directing those reinvested energies elsewhere.

yikes, that's rough and i feel for you! the trust thing is gonna be a really tough hurdle to overcome... does he seem genuinely remorseful, or is he just playing lip service? it's so unfair how society expects us to have it all together when inside we're just broken; but let me tell you, you're allowed to take your time figuring out what comes next. focusing on yourself and your healing might bring clarity as you go through this storm. therapy might actually help if you're up for it - sometimes having that space to process can do wonders... have you given any thought about what helps YOU the most right now?

wow, that's an intense situation to be in. the way trust can just shatter like that is seriously rough. you're juggling a huge mix of emotions here...it's no wonder it feels chaotic. maybe looking into those therapy sessions might help unravel some of what you're feeling? only you can decide what's next, but know it's perfectly okay to take your time. healing's on its own timetable and whatever decision you make should be what's best for your peace of mind.

it's completely understandable to feel overwhelmed and betrayed after discovering such a long-term deception. trust is a delicate bond, and when it's broken, rebuilding it can seem daunting. therapy might actually be helpful in sorting through this chaos (even if you're skeptical). sometimes just having an unbiased space to express your feelings can bring unexpected clarity. whatever path you choose forward, remember that taking care of your mental health is the most important step right now.

cheating sucks, that's a brutal betrayal. trust is such a fragile thing, easily shattered and hard to repair. but misery loves company and it seems folks here can relate. did he show any genuine remorse or effort towards rebuilding things? actions speak louder than words they say; consider looking at his behavior rather than just promises... therapy could help, even if it's just for your own clarity. but ultimately, what do *you* want outside of societal expectations?!

omg same thing happend nd omg was mad bcz cheated me w frnd nd her nvr trusted again dude lie everytime got close no more fakes!

Hey, that sounds incredibly rough... I'm sorry you're going through this mess. This whole betrayal situation can definitely flip your world upside down and yeah, trust issues are no joke after something like this! It's totally natural to feel pulled in different directions about whether forgiveness is even an option or if it's just out of the question. Have you ever thought about journaling your thoughts and feelings? I know for me, putting things down on paper helped sort out my chaotic headspace when I was dealing with some major life drama; it gave me a clearer path to follow rather than spinning in circles. And anyway, don't rush yourself into anything because that's asking a lot when everything's still so raw. Life isn't exactly like hitting reset on a game console but it could offer a new reality where peace can be found eventually!

idk maybe consider other factors first Honesty go both ways

Let it go.

unfortunately, in situations like this, trusting your gut often trumps any reconciliatory talk. the facade of normalcy while he was cheating speaks volumes about his character and priorities. focusing on what truly matters to you and not conforming to societal pressures is key here. perhaps consulting a therapist isn't just about stitching up the relationship but also understanding your own needs going forward. after all, it's not society bearing the brunt of this betrayal... it's you.

Maybe it's not just about moving past it or even forgiveness, but figuring out what you actually want from life now that this massive chunk of trust is gone—do you want to rebuild it with him or go find something new?

my cousin faced such situation she ended up believing him they’re happier now gave chance tho...

yikes, two years... that's a tough pill to swallow. i'd be questioning everything too! 🤔 if it were me, i think journaling could help clear the mental chaos; just getting all those thoughts and emotions out might make things less overwhelming. it's not always about keeping a stiff upper lip for society or even deciding the future just yet; maybe start by considering what healing looks like for you personally, outside of his actions or anyone else's opinions. trust is so hard to rebuild... but more than that is figuring out what *you* truly want in all this mess.

wow idk sounds tricky balancing between giving another shot & relying fully post breach gotta gauge personal boundaries first cuz who knows wts next trusting ur intuition's key many things run deep sometimes surface only rarely describes wn situations flip quick thinking one day n reality shifts soon...

? r u srsly condiering give trust back share moor abot hw did it make feel have sense suspision still shudnt b blindsided?