Love language quality time

yeh i get u but mayb its just temp like praps ur just busy rn u know

I hear you but maybe it's worth considering whether there's room for adjustment in expectations too? Relationships do change over time and sometimes they adapt.

i hear ya, it's tough when your schedules don't sync up and those little moments get harder to come by. it's definitely a weird adjustment living together 'cause everything feels like it should just click, but real life has its way of throwing curveballs. maybe finding even small windows where both you're available could help, like catching breakfast every now and then or setting aside one night weekly for a joint activity? sometimes carving out intentional time can make all the difference even with busy routines;

Totally get where you’re coming from, that feeling of being in the same space but not really "together" is super relatable; my partner and I had a similar phase when we first moved in together because our work lives were so mismatched too, and it took us a bit to figure out how to carve out dedicated time like deciding on a weekly date night or doing breakfast dates instead since

Man, that's rough. I've been there too, and it's crazy how different realities hit you once you actually start living together. People always assume that moving in means more shared time automatically, but schedules mess with it way more than you'd think. This isn't exactly advice, but when I was going through something similar, what helped us was setting a non-negotiable night or even just a half-hour where no matter what's happening, we do something together: a meal, show, walk, whatever. It's not perfect; sometimes life's still chaotic around it. But having that one thing to look forward to each week can make it less like you're just "roommates." Also props for noticing this now before it turns into a bigger issue... you're on the right track by reaching out here!

had same vibes wit my ex lol

Maybe it's just me, but have you thought about setting specific times to hang out intentionally, like even if it's just for a quick meal or those dumb shows?

To be honest, this sounds like an incredibly common situation people experience when moving in with someone for the first time. The reality often doesn't meet our ideal expectations immediately. While it can be frustrating to have your envisioned quality time cut short by logistical hurdles such as differing schedules or personal habits, these challenges usually indicate areas where both parties might need to recalibrate their routines or discussions around spending time together to make things work better.

i know that feeling, buddy..

true but maybe patience?

man, it seriously sucks when reality doesn't match with what you envisioned. sounds like those shared moments are really missing right now, and i totally understand that sense of disconnect despite living together. maybe trying to sync up one or two mornings a week for coffee together could help bridge the gap a bit? those relaxed times before things get hectic can sometimes create space for the more meaningful talks and chill vibes you're after! plus, it’s like starting the day on the same page which might make the rest feel a little less "roommate-ish." not every schedule mismatch ends up being forever, hang in there! 💪

Could it be that you're looking at this too narrowly?