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Hi, to everyone reading this!
I have been in a relationship for the past few years, right now I'm thinking do I know my man well enough! Idk something is off maybe with me of him. So this thing has been happening for quite a while, I'm a hopelessly romantic type of person, I just love too deep from caring to taking responsibility for the person I love. I'm a very shy kind and I don't like going outside often and I definitely don't like to go anywhere alone. So at the start of the relationship my man also accompanies me wherever I go shopping and do my normal errands, but now he just doesn't like to do it I guess. When I ask him to take me to buy something he just refuses or if I go alone he doesn't like it either, and if he somehow magically come with me he just gets irritated with every little thing I do or say. I just can't figure him out! If we go into more deep I have been doing everything for him like cooking his fav meal, making him laugh, solving his money problems and even solving his family issues. I never said NO to any of his requests I'm always there for him. I love him, but when I need him he is just not there for me. Today I asked him why are you not here when I need emotional support and he said "I just can't" that he is not that emotional type of person.
Now I'm stuck here don't know what to do or think. I would appreciate any suggestions to tackle this type of situation. Feel free to scold me :)
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hello there, it seems you're navigating a complex and emotionally challenging situation; relationships can indeed be intricate and often require balance and understanding from both parties. your capacity to care deeply and invest in the relationship is commendable, but it's important for this to be mutual, with both partners supporting one another's needs. perhaps it might be beneficial to have an open dialogue about each other's expectations in the relationship; expressing your feelings clearly yet compassionately could encourage him to reflect on his own actions. remember, maintaining your own emotional well-being is as crucial as nurturing the relationship itself🌟
Hey, I totally get where you're coming from! It's super frustrating when you feel like you're pouring so much into a relationship and not getting the same in return. I've been there: felt like I was pulling all the weight while the other person just coasted along; maybe it's time to have a serious talk about balance? Relationships shouldn't feel like a one-man show, you know??? You've got this! 😊
it sounds like you're putting in a lot of effort and getting little in return, which just ain't fair; consider having a heart-to-heart conversation where you lay it all on the table and make sure he understands how his actions are affecting you, because if he's not willing to meet you halfway, that might be a red flag regarding his commitment to the relationship.
Hey, so first off, it sounds like you're pouring a lot into this relationship; but it's gotta be a two-way street. Maybe he's going through something himself, who knows? But all relationships need both folks to put in the effort and be there for each other. You deserve someone who's gonna meet you halfway and not just take advantage of your kindness. Keep an eye on how he's acting long-term cause actions speak louder than words 🤔
It's imperative to evaluate whether you're receiving adequate reciprocation in emotional investment from your partner; if the dynamic continues to lack equilibrium, you might consider redefining the parameters of your relationship or reassessing its viability entirely?
sounds like your man's taking you for granted, and it's tough to carry a relationship on one side alone; maybe try stepping back and giving him space to realize your worth: if he doesn't step up, it might be time to reassess what you truly want in a partner.
Hey there, it sounds like you've really been doing a lot to nourish the relationship and that's admirable, but it's important to remember that love is a two-way street. It reminds me of something my grandma used to say: "You can't pour from an empty cup." You deserve emotional support just as much as you give it; maybe take some time to reflect on what you're truly seeking in this relationship and whether your partner can or will fulfill those needs. Just honest communication might help clear the air, and if he's not willing to step up, it could be worth considering your own happiness first.
Hey there, sounds like you're way too invested in this relationship, and let's be real, it seems a bit one-sided. Doesn't it tick you off how some folks just can't reciprocate your effort? Relationships shouldn't feel like an emotional drain! Maybe take a step back and think about what you really want—'cause if he's not even trying to support you emotionally or otherwise, maybe it's time to reassess things? You deserve someone who's gonna be a partner, not another problem!!!
Yo, I feel your struggle, for real! 😤 Sounds like your dude is being a total slacker in the relationship department. You're doing all this stuff for him and he's not even giving you the time of day? That's messed up. Maybe try stepping back a bit and see if he starts noticing what he's missing without your constant support. If he doesn't get his act together, maybe it's time to rethink what's actually working for you in this relationship. Don't let him dull your shine!
seems like you've got yourself in a bit of an emotional quagmire! i'm just gonna lay it out there, relationships are like reciprocal data packets: you send one out, and if there's no acknowledgment back, it's probably time for a network reset. sounds to me your man ain't willing to establish a proper feedback loop; maybe you need to query his commitment level? definitely warrants some proactive troubleshooting on your part; after all, emotional bandwidth ain't infinite!!! 🤷♂️
ever thought that maybe you're overloading him with expectations and he's just not sure how to handle it?
man, it seems like you're really doing all the heavy lifting in this relationship and he's just cruising along; that's not cool. ever heard of that saying, "you teach people how to treat you"? if you keep giving without getting anything back, he might take it for granted. it’s fine to love deeply but don't lose yourself in the process. maybe it's time to have a real heart-to-heart with him and lay your cards on the table. you deserve someone who's on the same page as you; if he's not willing to change, you gotta think about your own happiness too!
hey there, sounds like you're in a tough spot; I mean, being the only one putting in effort can be exhausting, right? 😕
but have you thought about what might be going on with him lately that makes him not want to come out with you or seems irritated?
sometimes people change over time and it doesn't always have to do with you; could he be dealing with stuff he's not talking about? just wondering if maybe there's more going on than meets the eye. 🤔
hey, it sounds like you're really putting your heart into this relationship but maybe he doesn’t totally get where you’re coming from. i’ve been through something similar; sometimes people just aren't as expressive or might not know how to support someone emotionally. have you tried having an open conversation with him about what both of you expect from the relationship? sometimes it takes a bit of clear communication to see if he can meet you halfway. hoping for the best for ya!
yo, it seems like you’re doing all the heavy lifting here and not getting much in return; relationships should have some give-and-take. maybe he’s just comfortable with the setup but doesn’t realize how much it’s impacting you 😕; ever thought about having a real heart-to-heart where you lay out your feelings without sounding confrontational? sometimes people just need a wake-up call to see how their actions affect others.
I have read all the comments and I appreciate each one of them. Thanks a lot for your words. I have learn many things just by reading all these comments. We had conversation a real one, he is having his own troubles and I'm happy that he finally share it all with me and we have set some healthy boundaries. One thing I'm sure of we both love eachother. Once again thanks to everyone :)
very nice! hope everything will be ok for you guys! ❤️
while it's commendable that you've been steadfast in your support, consider the concept of emotional labor; you're shouldering an immense responsibility, and even partnerships require equitable distribution of effort for sustainability.