i think my grindr hook-up is done with me because of somethi

i'm a 26 gay bottom. i honestly don't know what to do, so i'm asking here because i need some outside opinions. i met someone on grindr 30 years old and we've been hooking up for a while. we're not dating, and we never officially agreed to be exclusive, but i guess i got used to the idea of us only seeing each other. we've both hooked up with other people before, even before we met, so it's not like we had an actual agreement. the thing is, we've had arguments about grindr and hooking up with other people before. he's told me several times that he doesn't want to have sex with me anymore, but we eventually ended up talking again and hooking up. usually, i'm the one who reaches out first. there have also been times when he said things that made me think he wanted me to himself. he told me not to go back to grindr because i'm his. i know that doesn't necessarily mean anything romantic, but it made me think that maybe we had some kind of exclusivity, even though we never talked about it properly. now, here's where i fucked up.

i made another grindr account because i wanted to see if he was active and if he would entertain someone new. i tapped his profile using that account, and somehow, he ended up confronting me through my regular number. he accused me of lying about being inactive on grindr and said he didn't want to have sex with me anymore. i got defensive and asked how he knew i was active, whether he had been on grindr himself, and if he could show me proof of the account he was talking about. i was also upset because he kept accusing me of looking for other people when i felt like he might have been doing the same thing. we've had this argument before, and it honestly gets exhausting when he keeps asking if i've hooked up with someone else. but i know creating another account to test him was a stupid decision. i shouldn't have done that, and i regret it. after i sent him several messages, he replied again and basically told me to leave him alone, that he wasn't interested anymore, that i was a liar, and that i shouldn't text his number because he was going to block me. and honestly i know we're just casually hooking up, but i genuinely enjoy being with him. i like our chemistry, and i like being with him specifically. i just don't want to lose what we have. part of me thinks he might come back because we've reconnected after previous arguments. another part of me thinks i shouldn't expect that, especially because he explicitly told me not to contact him. i really want to text him and explain that i don't want things to end this way. i even wrote a message telling him that i've genuinely enjoyed being with him and that it hurts when he keeps questioning whether i've hooked up with other people. but i haven't sent it because he told me to leave him alone. i'm worried that if i don't contact him, he'll assume i've been hooking up with other people during that time. i know i can't control what he thinks, but it's hard not to worry about it when trust has always been an issue between us. i uninstalled grindr for now because i don't want to keep checking whether he's active or get tempted to make another account.

i just want some honest opinions. do you think there's still a chance he'll come back, considering we've argued and reconnected before? should i respect his request and wait for him to contact me, even if i'm scared he'll assume the worst?

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