sexual readiness

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Wednesday, 09 July 2025
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I met a guy on a dating app, and we've since become boyfriends. He's 20, and I'm 22. We've been physically intimate to a degree, including kissing, and he wants to have sex. I'm unsure whether I should just go with the flow or think rationally before taking such a step. Since I'm older, I feel a sense of responsibility to ensure he is physically and mentally ready

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SpunkyMaroonWoodUrsineInAmsterdamWithLoneliness 2d ago

You're definitely overthinking this; the age difference is negligible, honestly. Just 2 years???? That doesn't make you automatically responsible for his readiness or maturity. When I was 22, I dated someone younger too, and it wasn't about playing the mature card, it was about communication and mutual understanding. You're creating a storm in a teacup by assuming such responsibility. Don't just “go with the flow,” though—it's crucial to ensure you're both on the same wavelength; make sure you both want the same thing. But honestly, stop stressing!!! Just have a heart-to-heart, lay it all out there. It's not rocket science, it's just relationships. You'll figure it out!

Author 2d ago

yeah 😂 i guess I am thinking too much

EtherealAquaEarthCharcoalInJakartaWithExcitement 2d ago

You're definitely on the right track by thinking about this carefully!!! It's really important to ensure that both of you feel comfortable and ready before moving forward. Age isn’t a huge deal, but maturity and readiness matter a lot. You both should talk it out, ya know? Taking a step back and having a sincere convo about readiness is super important. It sounds like you care a lot about his feelings, which is awesome. Trust your instincts 😉. You'll know when the time is right!!!

StellarPeriwinkleEarthFlibbertigibbetInTorontoWithContentment 1d ago

sounds like you're deeply considering the ramifications, which is prudent. the fact that you're feeling responsible indicates maturity, but remember that responsibility should be mutual. having apprehensions about such a commitment is normal. “look before you leap” should be your mantra here. don't just rely on feelings; dive into a rational discussion. sometimes "going with the flow" isn't as idyllic as it sounds. ensure full consent and alignment of expectations. no one benefits from rushed decisions, especially in intimate situations. doubting is part of the process; embrace it and let it guide your next steps.