Unhealthy Relationship But We Still Love Eachother
The story
Me (14F) and my bf (13M) have been together for a little over a year now, but things have been not so good. We are long distance so we can only text and call, we wanted to meet up when we were older but things have changed. Last night me and him talked about taking a break or breaking up. He has been mean to me for the past few months and didn’t really treat me like his girlfriend, he let his friends be mean to me and he just laughed even though I’ve cried to him on the phone several times because of it.
But we both said if we do breakup, it would be on good terms and we would still talk and be friends. I do love him but the relationship wasn’t healthy for really either of us and often hurt me mentally. I still love him, I really do. I loved how sweet he was when he was and I just love everything about him other than the way he treated me. I feel like the distance is a big part of it because touch is my love language and also an easy way for me to show emotion in a few ways. I don’t want to breakup but it’s for the best.
My only issue is that I don’t know how I would find a new boyfriend when I’m ready. I’m homeschooled, there’s no clubs in my areas that I’m interested in, I don’t wanna do long distance again, moth of the guys/people is my area are assholes…I might have to try an app to meet someone but I’m scared of apps because of the risk of pedophiles and such. I just don’t know what to do
What should I do
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lil sis,who the fuck told you that you need a boyfriend,if he hurt you mentally,you can't be friends,cut ties my girl,you have your whole life,if you nee some specific advice big bro is here for ya,just ask
You are really young so don’t need a boyfriend right now. Taking a break sounds like a good idea to evaluate what you both want and you may discuss it further down the line. Focus on yourself and remember you have the rest of your life to meet someone don’t rush.
Sounds like a tough situation; taking a break sounds like a smart move, though. If he's being a jerk and letting his friends disrespect you, that's a red flag 🚩. Focus on yourself for now. Finding new people when you're ready is about networking effectively, not rushing. Safety is crucial—avoid risky apps. Trust your instincts and just stay safe out there, okay?
Hey, I get where you're coming from, but breaking up might not be such a bad thing. If he's been treating you badly, it's not worth hanging on just because you love him. I've been in a similar spot, and trust me, things won't magically improve because you want them to. Long-distance can be a killer, especially if touch is important to you; it's tough to rely on just words and calls. As for finding someone new, it might happen when you least expect it. I've met some cool people randomly when I wasn't even looking. Just give it time and focus on what makes you happy first!
Honestly, it sounds like you're making excuses for him. If he's letting his friends disrespect you and laughs about it, why stick around? 🌟 You say you love him, but love isn't just about the sweet moments; it's about feeling respected and valued too. "Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none," right? Why stay in a relationship that isn't healthy for you? Long-distance is hard, sure, but that's no excuse for him being a jerk. You'll find someone better who treats you right, without needing apps. Is this really the kind of love you want? 🤔
Long-distance sucks, and if he's being mean, it's not worth it😒. If he's letting his friends be jerks to you, that's not cool. Love isn't enough if he can't treat you right. Breakup seems smart; better to end things now than drag it out. Finding someone new will happen when it happens. Just focus on what you want and need. Stay safe and put yourself first.