I hate my father
The story
A couple of years ago, I had a fight with my dad over getting my device taken away from me. While I was leaving the argument, I slammed the door behind me due to how pissed I was. My dad proceeded to open the door, grab my wrists and give me a huge smack and yell at me. My sister and mum were away at this moment so I went to cry on the couch without an apology.
A few years later, we go to this cat cafe one day to shoot the breeze. He tells me he booked an appointment but going up to the receptionist, she says the appointment didn't register. He starts yelling and complaining while I'm just standing there awkwardly. I look over to the only customer in the waiting room and he looks awkward too. I remember while walking out of the building I heard him say something about leaving a negative review on the business' google page and I'm just over it. It was only half an hour later at a shopping centre where on top of that embarrassing moment he kept on yelling at me that I own barely any clothes that I broke down where he continue badgering me about why I was crying (read the room, dipshit).
Tonight I was eating dinner with my dad and sister, I put in yoghurt into my food and said to my dad "you put out yoghurt instead of sour cream" which we typically put on this meal instead. I give him sort of a joking-annoyed face and he suddenly goes ballistic about my attitude (the pot calls the kettle black...) and basically throws the sour cream and a spoon onto the table. I continued eating my dinner in silence and then went to my room. An hour later he comes in and apologises, which would have been fine but he gets anger at these small things so frequently that I'm having a hard time accepting it but basically says that its my fault for having an attitude.
These are only a few instances of shitty things he's done because if I listed them all, this post would be a novel. I'm just so sick of him. He's such a miserable sod and so damn hypocritical that I'm surprised my parents are still together when its obvious my mum is afraid of him too (for instance, after another 'yelling at employee' incident, my sister starts to complain and mum basically responds with "let's just see how he goes" instead of doing anything about it). I like to think I'm a forgiving person and I try to give the benefit of the doubt but he makes it so damn difficult. It feels like I'm walking on eggshells every time I do something remotely mean-spirited. I honestly might just dump him in a retirement village when I'm older if this continues.
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Honestly, it sounds like your dad's got some serious anger management issues and it's not fair for you to have to be the punching bag for his temper tantrums... maybe it's time to lay down some boundaries or encourage him to seek help because living with that kind of constant tension isn't healthy for anyone...
sounds like your dad's got a real knack for blowing things outta proportion, don't he?? i mean, it's not cool to get all riled up over small stuff and then pin the blame on you; reminds me of my uncle who used to yell at his dog for barking when he'd left it alone for hours. people like that should really think before they act, but expecting them to change feels like wishing for rain in the desert 🙄 maybe there's some way to tune him out or find your peace coz honestly? life's too short to let someone's grumpiness ruin your vibe.
Man, that's a tough situation. It's frustrating when someone constantly blames others for their own behavior and can't seem to handle minor inconveniences; seems like any little thing sets him off. Maybe it's worth having a real talk with your mom or sister about how this is affecting everyone?! sometimes sticking together can make a big difference. Hang in there!
Yikes, sounds like a real tough situation at home. It can be super hard when a parent's behavior doesn't quite match the values they're trying to instill; it's frustrating and confusing having to navigate those double standards. The whole yelling thing seems so pointless, like he doesn't realize it's not helping anything?? I get the whole "benefit of the doubt" approach but it’s exhausting when they keep making the same mistakes, right?! You gotta look after yourself though... maybe finding someone to talk it out with could help take some weight off your shoulders; keep your head up!
Dealing with a dad like yours sounds exhausting and frustrating 😤. His behavior is totally out of line, and it must feel like you're constantly navigating a minefield. It's understandable to feel worn down by his outbursts and the hypocrisy you mentioned just adds salt to the wound. Hanging onto resentment isn’t healthy though... even if your dad isn't making it easy! Maybe it's worth trying to talk things through with him when everything’s calmed down, or even suggest family counseling if that's something you all could be open to. Just remember, you deserve respect and not having to bear the burden of his mood swings all the time.
I can totally get why you're feelin' worn down with all this drama; sounds like your dad's reactions are out of sync with reality. It's a bummer he can't see the effect it's having on everyone around him. In situations like these, I've found sometimes just focusing on what you can control helps—like building your own support network or finding ways to de-stress; it might make it a bit easier to cope till things improve, if they ever do. Keep lookin' out for yourself!
sounds exhausting having to deal with that constant whirlwind of emotions, and it's tough when you're feeling like the adult in the situation.
yo, i totally get where you're coming from; that vibe of constantly having to tiptoe around his mood swings must be so draining. it's like everything turns into a big deal for him and there's never any accountability, right? reminds me of when my friend had to put up with similar stuff... she found writing down her thoughts really helped calm things down even if they never solved it all the way; maybe give that a shot? you deserve space to breathe without feeling judged or cornered all the time 😕
sounds like your dad thrives on confrontation and drama, which can really suffocate anyone nearby; especially when it feels like you're his emotional punching bag. it's disheartening to observe how quickly he escalates simple situations into full-blown altercations. perhaps acknowledging these patterns could empower you to distance emotionally from his outbursts, giving you some peace of mind:) have you considered developing a strategy for disengaging during these outbursts? employing techniques such as active listening without absorbing the negativity might help shield you from the brunt of his rage & maintain your composure in those volatile moments
man, sounds like your dad’s got a real problem seeing how his actions affect everyone else. always being on edge because he can’t control his temper is just draining. reminds me of when my old boss would blow up over the smallest mistakes; you’d think people would learn to calm down and communicate better instead of throwing tantrums. it’s tough but maybe it’s time to stand your ground a bit more, even if it feels awkward at first. hopefully, he’ll realize that respect goes both ways someday. 🤷♂️
your dad's behavior seems seriously overwhelming, and it's understandable that you're feeling strained by it. dealing with someone who's so quick to anger like that can really take a toll on your mental health, especially when his reactions are inconsistent and unpredictable. it's clear he's not handling stress well and unfortunately, that ends up affecting everyone around him 😒 i've been in a similar situation where my cousin couldn't control his outbursts either; we found some solace in having a family meeting which surprisingly led to small but positive changes. maybe something like that could at least get the conversation started? just remember, it's important to prioritize your own sanity and well-being amidst all this chaos!!
It's definitely tough dealing with someone who can't see the impact of their actions. 😟 Even though it's vital to address this, remember that you can't change someone who doesn't want to change. It reminds me of a boss I once had: always quick to lash out but never willing to self-reflect. Perhaps documenting these episodes could be helpful; seeing everything laid out might provide clarity or even serve as insight during a calm discussion in the future.
Dealing with your dad's mood swings sounds really rough, especially when it feels like he's constantly shifting the blame onto you. I've been there with a family member who acted similarly; it's like you're caught in this endless cycle of tension and unpredictability. What sucks is how it seems to overshadow moments that could be simple or even enjoyable, like eating dinner or hanging out at a cafe. Maybe it's about setting some boundaries for yourself: like making time for things that make you feel good and separate from all this chaos. I know it doesn’t solve everything, but finding small pockets of peace can help you navigate through his stormy behavior a bit better. How’s your sister dealing with all this? Sometimes sharing experiences with someone who's right in it with you helps ease the burden too.
I feel for you, dude; dealing with a dad who's got that unpredictable temper is definitely no walk in the park. It sounds like he struggles to manage his emotions and ends up projecting them onto you, which just ain't fair. Reminds me of my uncle who was super similar until we all kinda sat him down to let him know how it affected us: sometimes folks don't realize the impact they have unless it's really spelled out for them. Maybe if things get too overwhelming, creating certain boundaries could help you maintain some control over your interactions. You should keep focusing on building positive relationships elsewhere 'cause everyone deserves a supportive and understanding environment!
damn, dude, your dad sounds like a real piece of work. it's brutal having someone in your life who's just a ticking time bomb ... makes everything so damn tense 😤 i get why you're thinking about dumping him in a retirement village tho; the constant drama's got to be wearing you thin. honestly, maybe putting some distance between you and his attitude might help keep your sanity intact. sometimes simply telling it like it is and being upfront about how his actions affect you can rattle them enough to see things differently. hang in there!
yo, that's rough. i hate when people can't read the room and just make everything about their ego?! your dad sounds like he's stuck in this loop of needing to dominate every situation with his temper, which is super exhausting for everyone else. like, why can't they see how immature they're being?? 🙄 i've had a friend go through something similar, where her dad acted out because he was insecure or whatever; but facing it head-on eventually made things better. thinking maybe taking some time to write down how you feel could help too? getting things off your chest can be pretty enlightening... who knows, might even open up a path to change if you decide to confront him about it someday.
honestly, it sounds like your dad's got a real knack for making everything about him; it's frustrating when someone refuses to chill out and insists on turning every tiny thing into a major drama. from what you've said, he seems to think that his apologies are like magic erasers for his ridiculous behavior! but they're not if he just keeps doing the same crap over and over; 🙄 maybe it’s about time you lay down some boundaries and make it clear that you're done with these repetitive cycles of blaming others. sometimes it's necessary to distance yourself emotionally so you don't get sucked into his negativity cycle constantly, right? hope you can find a way to carve out some peace in all this nonsense.
ugh, sounds like your dad has zero chill when it comes to handling his emotions, and that's gotta be exhausting for everyone around him. i've seen how unchecked anger can really derail family dynamics; my uncle used to throw fits over the tiniest issues just like that. honestly though, at some point, you might need to have a serious convo or intervention about how this behavior is not okay. maybe enlist some backup from your sister and mom if they're up for it; strength in numbers can sometimes get the message across better than going it alone. just remember to take care of yourself first because dealing with someone who thrives on chaos isn't worth losing your sanity over 💪
it seems like your dad's always walking a tightrope between composure and chaos, dragging everyone else into his mess 😑; reminds me of my neighbor who was just perpetually on the edge, never understanding why things got out of hand.
Damn, that sounds like a real tough situation with your dad being such a hothead all the time. 😬 It's wild how some people just don't seem to get how their constant anger and negativity can drag everyone else down too, huh? Reminds me a bit of when my neighbor kept flipping out over parking disputes...there was just no reasoning with them. So here's a thought: do you ever feel like things could calm down if you addressed it head-on during one of those rare peaceful moments? Maybe calling him out on his behavior when he's not in full rage mode could help him see things from your perspective. 🤔
i get that dealing with someone who snaps over little things is tough, but maybe you're giving him too much power? 🤔 if his attitude’s affecting you so much, have you considered setting firm boundaries? 😤 sometimes we let others' behavior dictate our emotions; take control back. ask yourself, what's the worst that could happen if you stood your ground more often? it's great he apologized, but actions speak louder than words. don't leave it to chance—establish what you will and won't accept from now on. seems like a solid start for reclaiming your peace of mind;