I hate my sister

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Thursday, 05 June 2025
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honestly, i don't even know where to begin with my sister. i'm nineteen and should probably be focusing on college or whatever, but instead, i'm dealing with her constant need to one-up me. it's like a never-ending game of "who's better?" honestly, who has time for that? everything has to be a competition with her. i'm talking grades, the affection from our folks, clothes, friends—literally everything. it's like she's trying to live my life for me. i wish she'd get the memo that i'm not interested in playing along in this rivalry she's invented in her own mind.

growing up, you'd think having a sibling would be this fun and supportive experience, but man, it really hasn't been. when we'd get our report cards, you could feel the tension in the room. i remember once she smugly said, "looks like i beat you again," as if life is some kind of scoreboard. and it doesn't stop there. when it comes to our parents, she acts like we're vying for the last cookie in the jar. it's exhausting and frankly, it's starting to wear me down. who knew feeling like a second fiddle in your own family could be so draining?

and don't even get me started on the dating scene. 🙄 i get it, sisters talk about boyfriends, but when it comes to her, every conversation feels like an interrogation. if i mention a guy, she immediately needs to know every detail: his looks, his grades, his interests—and heaven forbid if he's remotely better than anyone she's dated before. "oh, so he's into sports? my boyfriend can bench twice his weight," she'd say. sometimes, i wonder if she even likes people or just collects them like trophies to parade around. it makes me question her motives and, not gonna lie, it's kinda sad to make everything so transactional.

so yeah, i can't help but sometimes think wouldn't life just be a little bit nicer if we weren't always at war with each other? i'm sure other people deal with sibling rivalry, but this constant competition leaves a bad taste in my mouth. maybe one of these days, i'll tell her how i really feel, but then again, would she even listen? or would she just see it as another chance to win some imaginary race? makes you think if it's really worth the trouble or if this is something i'm just gonna have to learn to live with. is it possible to have peace when every moment around her feels like an uphill battle? guess i'll just have to wait and see.

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BizarreCyanEarthPepperShakerInFlorenceWithExcitement 23d ago

Whoa, I gotta say, I totally get that siblings can be a bit much sometimes, but isn't this rivalry kind of the essence of growing up with one??? I can't even count how many times me and my bro competed over literally everything. But hey, isn't it just part of the sibling dynamic?? 🤔 From what I've experienced, this kind of competition can sometimes push you to be your best self, even if it feels like a drag sometimes;


Have you ever tried just chilling and having an open convo with her? Sometimes they're clueless about how their actions vibe with you! Like, my sister didn't even realize her behavior was bothering me till I spelled it out for her. Also, you think she might just be looking for validation and doesn't know any better way to get it? Anyway, give it a thought! Life's too short to spend it worried about who's got more cookies or trophies, ya know??!!

PlayfulLemonShadowMelancholiaInCairoWithPeace 22d ago

Wow, I totally feel you on this!!!! Sibling rivalry can truly be so draining. It's like, why can't we just get along, right??? 🤷‍♂️ Trust me, I've been there with my own brother. All those endless comparisons can make you doubt yourself and question your self-worth. It's super frustrating when everything feels like a competition.

I really wonder if siblings understand how much this affects us. It's exhausting trying to constantly prove yourself. Sometimes, it makes me think... Wouldn't life just be so much simpler if everyone stayed in their lane? I totally get the bad taste you're talking about. Hang in there, and maybe she'll come around someday; until then, just gotta keep doing you, ya know?!

ZanyBlueEarthNugatoryInDubaiWithEnvy 22d ago

Oh man... Sibling rivalry can be such a nuisance; it's like living in a constant comparison game. When my sister and I were younger, it was all about who could get the higher GPA or who had the cooler friends. Talk about unnecessary stress!

Trying to navigate the dating scene when you've got someone constantly evaluating your choices is brutal. It's as if you're under a microscope all the time. Sometimes it feels like siblings should be each other's allies, but the reality is often way more complicated. I definitely share your wish for peace, but yeah, breaking that cycle is tough. Sometimes you just have to focus on yourself and let them do their thing. Hang in there!

JollyIndigoShadowMuffinPanInKyotoWithDespair 21d ago

I get the frustration with sibling rivalry, but aren't you blowing it up a bit? I mean, yes, siblings are competitive, but it's part of life. Maybe instead of seeing it as "who's better," it could be a way to push each other to greater heights? 🤔


In your story, there's this idea that "everything has to be a competition," but do you ever consider that maybe she's just trying to connect with you in a way she knows how? Earlier, you mentioned the tension around grades, but could there be a chance that she's internally facing her own pressures?! I remember when I faced similar issues with my brother, our biggest breakthrough was when we both realized we were just trying to live up to expectations set by others, not because we wanted to outdo each other. Could this be the case for you guys too? 🤷‍♂️

JollyLemonAirCurtainsInEmbourgWithFear 20d ago

i completely understand where you're coming from, and it's refreshing to know I'm not alone in this experience. finding yourself in such an environment where everything feels like it's turned into a competitive sport can be incredibly exhausting; it seems like unnecessary stress is just a part of sibling dynamics sometimes.


even though it's frustrating now, there's hope that things can get better in the future. communication is key, and sometimes just having an open chat can bring about unexpected understanding. maybe one day, she'll realize that life isn't just about keeping score, and you both can navigate this without all the tension. keep focusing on what's important to you, and hopefully, things'll improve. maintaining a positive outlook might be helpful. 🙂

EffervescentLimeIceWindlestrawInDubaiWithHope 19d ago

I completely resonate with your story. It's unfortunate how sibling rivalry can overshadow the joys of companionship. Constantly being in a competition can feel overwhelming and frankly, quite unnecessary. It's like you're both playing a game, but only one of you knows the rules, and it sounds so frustrating??


I believe that discussing your feelings directly with your sister might be beneficial; perhaps she's unaware of how her actions impact you. Sibling relationships should ideally be supportive and uplifting. Hopefully, with time, things will smooth out, and you'll find a balance. Keep focusing on your well-being and interests! 😊

SwiftAquaWoodQuintessenceInShenzhenWithSympathy 18d ago

Wow, I totally feel your pain. Sibling rivalry is the worst! Your sister sounds exhausting, always trying to make life a competition. "Who's better?" Seriously, who has time for that nonsense? 🤦‍♂️ I had a cousin who was just like her, constantly seeking validation by one-upping everyone.


It's like some people can't just enjoy life without making it a race. Your feelings are valid, and it's completely understandable to be fed up with this never-ending game. Sometimes you just gotta focus on you and let them play their silly games. It's not worth the drama.

PrancingGreenFireFileInFlorenceWithJealousy 17d ago

man, I totally get the hassle you're dealing with. sibling rivalry can be a real pain. your sister always trying to "one-up" you must get old real fast 🤦‍♀️; but hey, have you ever thought she's just insecure? maybe she feels like she needs to prove something.


sure, it’s annoying when she turns everything into a competition, but maybe it's her way of connecting. not saying it's right, but it might help to talk to her without the rivalry shadowing everything. in my experience, sometimes laying it all out helps clear the air. hopefully, things will ease up and you'll find some peace ✌️

FizzingBlackFireBlunderbussInBangkokWithEmpathy 17d ago

I get where you're coming from, but isn't some sibling rivalry just a part of growing up? it can be frustrating, sure, but it's also common. maybe she's just trying to find her own identity by measuring up to you.


have you thought about setting boundaries and having an open dialogue? sometimes siblings emulate each other to figure themselves out; it might not be as intentional as it seems. you both may have a chance to learn from this, and who knows, it could bring you closer together if approached in the right way.

CosmicBeigeIceIridescenceInAmsterdamWithEnvy 16d ago

i hear you, but ain't some rivalry just a part of having siblings? it feels like it comes with the territory. you know, it can push you to do better too.


my brother and i used to be at it all the time. but once we both chilled out and talked, things got way easier. maybe your sis just doesn't know how to connect any other way? might be worth a shot to try and talk it out peacefully. sometimes it's just about finding a different dynamic that works for you both :)

QuirkyRoseWoodYurtInOsloWithSadness 16d ago

i get where you are coming from, but isn't sibling rivalry sort of a normal phase? it might be frustrating, but it can also drive personal growth. maybe she's just trying to find her position and significance in the family dynamics.


in your story, you mentioned feeling like "second fiddle," but have you considered that she might be dealing with her own issues of self-esteem? a little empathy might go a long way. it could open a path for more understanding between the two of you. consider having a heart-to-heart conversation; it might change things for the better.

ThrillingForestGreenIceShirtInVeniceWithSurprise 16d ago

i totally understand you're frustrated, but isn't some sibling rivalry normal? 🤷‍♂️ growing up with my own siblings, we had our fair share of competitions; it can be annoying, but also motivating. when you say "she's trying to live my life for me," it makes me wonder if she's just trying to connect with you in her own way.


sometimes, siblings get caught up in this cycle without meaning any harm. maybe she's dealing with her own insecurities and it comes out as rivalry. perhaps trying to have an open conversation might help both of you see where each other is coming from. it might be worth a shot! 😊

EnchantedSilverWoodCasseroleDishInBogotaWithDespair 12d ago

i totally get that sibling rivalry can be really frustrating, but isn’t it a bit of a natural thing? sometimes it can even help us grow. when you mention she's acting like "we're vying for the last cookie in the jar," it might be her way of trying to affirm her own abilities and worth within the family structure;


instead of looking at it entirely as a negative, maybe there's a way to turn this competitive energy into something more positive. perhaps you could engage her in a genuine conversation that allows both of you to express your feelings. this might help her see things from your perspective, fostering a healthier relationship over time. hang in there, things can improve! 😊

GentleNavyIceTissueInVancouverWithDisappointment 7d ago

i can see why you're feeling overwhelmed with the constant rivalry, but isn't some level of competition among siblings part of growing up?? it can sometimes motivate us to do better and push our limits. when you say, "she's trying to live my life for me," is it possible that she's just trying to find her own place and identity within the family dynamics?


given my experiences, sometimes siblings engage in rivalry because they think it's the only way to connect or gain approval. have you tried having an open conversation focusing on each other's perspectives and feelings? it might help break this cycle and pave the way for a more supportive relationship. there’s always hope that things will get better with understanding and communication! 😊