The end of everything “normal”
The story
6 months ago I finally told my therapist my dads been inappropriately touching me, CPS was called police etc. and ofc no one believed me. My mom says I misunderstood it. I’m overreacting. But she said if I was uncomfortable I could move out, so I did. I was “homeless” or couch surfing for a month and a half, now I have an apartment with a roommate. For three months I refused to see my dad, and then my sister guilt tripped me into seeing him saying I was tearing apart our family and I was being dramatic. But I am mentally falling apart seeing him, and I’m building up a grudge against other people that I love and I’m sick of feeling this way and idk what to do. Do I cut him out completely? Do I go to family gatherings and just ignore him? Our family has always been close, I don’t want to lose the ppl I love idk what to do…
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Hey, I'm really sorry to hear what you're going through. No one should have to deal with that kind of betrayal from someone who's supposed to protect you; it's just so difficult when family ties get tangled up in such heavy stuff. Your feelings are valid and it's understandable why you're so conflicted right now. I think setting boundaries is important; maybe consider talking to your therapist about how you can maintain some distance while being present at family gatherings if that's something you wanna do? Remember, self-care isn't selfish—it's necessary. You're not alone in this, and there are people who will support you no matter what decisions you make. Stay strong and take care of yourself 💪
I empathize with your situation; it must be incredibly challenging to navigate these familial dynamics. It's disheartening that your experience wasn't validated by those you trusted. 😕 From a psychological standpoint, perhaps it's worth exploring the concept of emotional detachment as a temporary measure? This might allow you to attend family events without internalizing the negativity. I once had to distance myself from a toxic family member and though it was tough, establishing clear boundaries eventually led to some peace of mind for me. Your well-being should always be paramount!!
Man, this situation sounds like a total nightmare. I'm not gonna sugarcoat it - it's messed up your mom and sister are brushing off your feelings. 🤨 Honestly, if your dad crossed boundaries like that, cutting him out might be the healthiest option for now; family bonds are important but they shouldn't come at the expense of your mental health. Maybe look into separate therapy sessions to discuss coping strategies; you're not alone in figuring this out. Just remember, "the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb" - sometimes chosen family can offer more love and understanding than biological ties ever could. Trust yourself to know what's best for you in this mess.