Welp, here we go again

it seems like you're living in a challenging situation where your boundaries aren't being respected, and it's clear that you need space for your own emotional well-being; navigating these family dynamics can be incredibly difficult, but remember your feelings are valid and setting those boundaries is an act of self-care even if it goes unacknowledged by others.

it's rlly hard to deal wit parents who just wont listen. i feel u so much, but maybe jus maybe she dnt kno how to communicate proper? like she's tryin' and failin miserably, idk. it's frustrating when ur not heard tho!

Dude, that situation sounds like a real mess. It's wild that she can't see how her actions affect you and then tries to gaslight about it 😡. Honestly, it's so frustrating when people don’t respect boundaries. At this point, all you can do is focus on yourself and keep protecting your mental health 💪. The past might suck but better days are ahead!

Hey, that really sounds like a rough situation. But honestly, living under the same roof and trying to set those boundaries is tough, no doubt about it. While I totally get your frustration with how your mom handles things, maybe slamming the door shut isn't always the best route; sometimes keeping some level of conversation open can at least keep things from escalating more than they already have. I mean, my sister and I had a similar falling out once. Instead of cutting ties completely, we agreed on some basic rules for communication, and while we're not super close or anything now, it did help make daily interactions less unbearable.

I know it's exhausting when someone refuses to acknowledge their mistakes or gaslights you into thinking you're overreacting. Your feelings are legit here; remember though that avoiding any contact might sometimes just prolong this whole tense atmosphere unnecessarily. Maybe finding some middle ground will eventually help you both coexist without all this drama hanging over everything.

It's really rough going through that with your mom, but maybe there's a chance for some small progress if you both take baby steps. I know it can be really tough given the history you mentioned, but perhaps finding a third party to mediate might help.

perhaps a slightly different angle might provide some clarity; consider the possibility that your mother may not fully grasp the extent of the emotional and psychological impact her actions have had on you, as many people struggle to comprehend another's perspective unless they are explicitly guided through it with empathy and patience.

Man, that sounds like such a frustrating situation; I totally get why you'd be fed up. It's like she doesn't even get it, no matter how many times you explain yourself. Parents just don't seem to understand boundaries sometimes, and it's infuriating when they think everything can just "go back to normal" after years of damage. Sounds like you're doing the right thing by setting those limits for your own well-being. Keep sticking to your guns...and maybe, just maybe, she'll eventually start listening. 🙄

same problem here but u shud try talkin once more?

wow, that sounds incredibly tough to deal with 😔 i think you're in the right for prioritizing your mental health. it's hard when people don't acknowledge their part and keep pushing buttons; maybe she thinks she's doing what others say is 'right,' but it doesn't sound like she's truly listening to you. it's just frustrating when parents seem blind to how their actions have affected us... i've had my own share of family misunderstandings too. stay strong and do what's best for you.

I understand your frustration, but maybe give her one more chance to listen.

Honestly, it sounds like there's an underlying issue of communication breakdown here. While you're right not to pretend everything's okay if it's not, sometimes people genuinely don't understand the impacts of their actions until it's pointed out multiple times.

same thing happened 2 me once... parents r tough

Maybe therapy?

man, that is such a rough spot to be in 😞 living with someone who's supposed to be your support system but feels more like a pressure cooker. sounds like you've drawn some clear boundaries though, and you're holding firm on them (which can't be easy when you share the same space). i wonder if there's any way for you to have some physical distance or space at home; sometimes just having a place you can go to breathe without interruption makes a difference; it's hard cause there's this expectation that family will naturally mend, but that's not always the case... been there myself with my dad who thought every issue could just be fixed by ignoring it until it vanished. those patterns take time to break (if they ever do) but protecting your mental health has gotta come first.

I had a similar situation with my dad last year. We didn't speak for months until we finally sat down with a therapist and hashed it out. Maybe consider that option before writing her off entirely.

Reading your post made me wonder what keeps you from moving out? Is it mostly financial or are there other reasons? It seems like living separately might offer some needed space and perspective for both you and your mom.

Wow, I can relate to having a parent who's not listening at all. Your frustration is justified, although sometimes giving them just one last chance with set boundaries can change things a bit (not always though). It depends on how willing they are too.