Friendship breakup
The story
A few months ago I ran into a friend who was more like a little sister to me. We were naming plans for what time we would leave for football the next day and I made a joke to her she was in for a big night when she was carrying a few pizzas.
The next day on the way to football with another one of our teammates and her partner he made a comment about “last night” and the girlfriend hit him to shut him up.
I questioned why this was being hidden. They were going on about some of their friends being two faced so I was like well this is pretty two faced what you’re doing trying to hide this from me. I’d like to say I couldn’t care less if I didn’t get invited to the get together but the fact that I’d spoken to both these girls to night before and it was all kept a secret.
When I pushed further the girl who’s like family said I didn’t get invited to her sisters house because I don’t like her partner and he didn’t want me there. Mind you she doesn’t like him either but I’ve been making an effort with him and I also babysit their daughter for many months while they couldn’t get anyone.
So I messaged the sister who has been my best friend since childhood and asked what the go was. She told me there wasn’t anything to be invited to and accused me of blowing it out of proportion. I never replied because I didn’t want to go back and forth but I often think about it since it’s still fairly recent and we live in a small town.
I still don’t care if I didn’t get invited to the get together because I most likely wouldn’t have gone but what made me really upset was that it was clear they were trying to hide it (and very badly might I say). One says there wasn’t anything to be invited to and the other says the opposite so who knows but these people were more family than my own so it’s been quite hard. However I’ve felt great in myself since pulling back from the friendships since all they done was run people down.
I have also been backstabbed by another person in town who I also considered family so it’s hard not having any friend in town to talk to.
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man, that kind of stuff really can mess with your head. there's nothing worse than finding out people you thought were like family are being shady behind your back. it just goes to show how complicated friendships can get sometimes, especially in tight-knit communities. it's totally natural to feel bummed when things shift this way, but you're better off without all that drama dragging you down, y'know? keep doing what makes you feel good; sounds like pulling back is already giving you some peace of mind. 🤷♂️
Dang, that's rough. It sounds like a pretty messy situation, but sometimes pulling back can really help clear your head and show you who’s worth keeping around. Small towns can make stuff like this feel even bigger 'cause there's no escaping the drama; I’ve had my share of fallouts in tight communities too, and it’s hard to know who to trust when everyone knows everyone else. It's like getting caught up in other people’s two-faced games is just draining. But hey, if they’re not bringing good vibes into your life anymore, maybe it’s for the best to focus on yourself and those who truly lift you up. Stay strong and keep doing what feels right for you! 😊
Sounds like you're stuck in a small-town soap opera, it's unreal how people act sometimes. I've been there, and it feels like living in a fishbowl where everyone knows your business or thinks they do. When those you consider "family" keep secrets and spin different stories, it's hard to know who to trust; maybe it's good they're showing their true colors now. Just remember you're better off without the drama... I've cut out toxic friends before for my peace of mind too. Sometimes kicking back on your own terms is the healthiest choice.
wow that's kinda messyy. sounds like ur caught up in a web of mixed signals, hard to say what's really goin on behind the scenes.
Wow, that's a lot of drama over something that seems so trivial. Honestly, their excuses are crappy and conflicting; can't believe they couldn't even keep their story straight 😒 They sound like they're trying to cover up something petty, which makes it feel worse somehow. Been there myself...small town life can be such a soap opera sometimes! Keep doing you and maybe new real friends will come out from this mess...
i think what happened is really confusing for you. sometimes people just want to avoid conflict and they end up creating more problems by keeping things secret. I've been there too where friends try to hide stuff thinking it protects feelings when it only makes things awkward later on. give yourself some space and maybe some time will help clear things up.
dat sux i also had friends do this n its like dont realy kno wat they think bout u
it's tough when friendships don't feel honest, especially in a small town where everyone seems to be interconnected. one thing i've noticed is that sometimes people make plans without realizing the impact of excluding someone they care about. it's frustrating but also enlightening. maybe this situation has shown you who truly values your presence and support. pulling back can often give clarity on what and who makes you feel genuinely appreciated. keep focusing on your own wellbeing and remember that real friends will always find their way back or show up for you consistently.
it seems like your friend might have been in a tough spot between you and her partner's opinions. while it's understandable that you'd feel left out, maybe she didn't know how to handle the situation without causing drama. people's relationships can be tricky especially when others don't get along with their partners.
!truth! relationships are seriously complex 🥲
ugh, what a mess. it's crazy how fast trust goes out the window when people start acting shady for no good reason. small towns make it worse 'cause everyone's in each other's business, right? i totally get feeling let down by people you thought were close. reminds me of when i had a similar thing happen and it was like getting hit from all sides... but honestly, cutting out that noise and focusing on yourself is freeing. who needs fake friends anyway? just keep being your awesome self without that unnecessary drama dragging you down! 🤔
sounds like you're stuck dealing with a bunch of drama queens. small-town dynamics can be such a hassle, especially when people act like they're in some bad soap opera. it's so messed up how they couldn't even get their story straight and left you hanging with all those half-baked excuses; honestly, that's just weak. 🤔 at least this experience might help you see who truly has your back and who's worth the effort moving forward. focus on yourself and keep an open mind for connections that don't come with all this unnecessary baggage; life’s too short to waste it on shady friendships!
ugh, that's so stressful!
I understand feeling left out but pushing further might have made it worse. Sometimes people need space too, and that could've been their way of handling it.
wow, that's a real tangled mess. sometimes it feels like people in small towns can't help but get wrapped up in drama instead of just being straightforward with each other. it's tough when folks you thought you could trust start acting shady and making excuses that don't add up; everyone seems to be spinning different stories which is super frustrating. there's always someone who ends up caught in the mix, and this time, it's you! maybe giving them some space will show if they're genuinely worth keeping around. take care of yourself, and hopefully things will feel less intense soon... 🤞
Totally relatable! I've been in a similar spot where I thought someone was my closest friend but they turned out to be two-faced as well. It's important to notice who truly values you.
this is so common these dayz! totally agree with u, i also had a situation last year wher my best friend didnt ivite me to her bday party n then lied saying she forgot me. some peeps are just not worth the stress!
*sigh* tell me about it...people can suck sometimes!
sounds like they're acting pretty childish if you ask me. hiding things and giving different stories? what are they, teenagers stuck in some high school drama loop? don't let this mess consume too much of your energy. what's the deal with these people messing up what's supposedly family-like friendships? might be time to reevaluate who really deserves to be in your circle when it's all said and done;
so did you ever find out exactly why they didn’t say anything?
I mostly see your point, but friendships often come with unseen complexities we can't always comprehend immediately. As much as we want transparency, it's possible they were trying (albeit poorly) to protect someone's feelings or manage tensions.
it's understandable you're frustrated but sometimes even close friends make odd decisions under pressure or bad advice from others around them. maybe they're trying to juggle too many things at once and unintentionally making mistakes along the way.
i totes agree w/u sounds lika toxic dynamic keepn secrets isnt cool! i had roomates once who hid parties from me becuz i was focusd on exams... felt betrayd big time
omg something similar hapnd 2me last winter I thot my BFF was acting weird round me turns out she didnt invite me 2her engagement prty cuz her bf doesnt lik me so awkard feels so betrayd yknow