How awful it is to be in groups with a weak identity.
The story
I feel like I'm in an environment where my ability to socialize with others is disregarded, and on top of that, my closest friends and family struggle due to the prejudices others foster as a result of such circumstances. People don't usually appreciate these analyses I conduct to explain what's happening, and psychotherapists have become part of the group.
I like this way of life, but I haven't received any support to fully consolidate it. Support is always a camouflage to force me to abandon it, in a blatant way. The whole effort is to make me achieve what I was helped to achieve, given that the problems I identified as such are no longer pointed out but now begin to view them in a pleasing light, which is what I feel the therapeutic work I've attended was all about.
I can't deny that I feel disappointed by society. My family struggled to contain me, and I always tried to adapt according to the circumstances, without predetermining and consolidating a certain personality in order to defend it. Outside, there were also these difficulties, to the point where others either abandoned me or established a distant and superficial relationship. The times they've tolerated me, it's because they had no other choice, and the times they've resorted to influencing me to adapt, it's because they haven't seen any other way either. All of this is always aimed at achieving stability within the environment for the group I belong to, rather than consolidating their personality within it through defensiveness. In itself, everything has consisted of complacency with the environment, as my family pointed out, which makes me feel like I'm among people who are incapable of reinforcing their identity as a group. This is something I find regrettable and terrifying, because we are always at the mercy of others, and their movements can occur at any moment, and consequently, any other. Therefore, in itself, it speaks to the lack of stability other than that provided by the environment itself, and that, again, speaks to a lack of tools for self-preservation.
I would like to be part of groups capable of reinforcing the presence of their personality in the environment, and not in those that are weakly structured and therefore provide a false sense of stability only provided by the environment. This makes me see the origin of those who go with the flow, and indeed, it seems that groups of this nature are the ones that populate the earth, at least within the country where I live.
Frankly, this type of spirit is not the example of someone who, I suspect, will sooner or later come back to me, so I feel it is necessary to seek out groups with such a capacity for reinforcement, and of course, that do not rely on popularity or a position of power, which are the elements on which some groups rely to maintain their way of being in the face of change. Indeed, it is necessary to make observations, at least in note format, to arrive at a systematic approach, but first, it begins with examining the material at hand.
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hmm, I see what you're saying, but isn't some of that just "environmental adaptation"??? i get the frustration, but sometimes we gotta think about "social capital." don't you think it's important to sometimes go with the flow for the sake of stability??? I read somewhere that "the art of life's about balance." isn't it worth considering the idea that maybe the "support" you're brushing off is a genuine attempt to help??? ☝️ not saying you're wrong, but maybe their intentions aren't as negative as they seem. 🤷♂️ just a thought!
honestly, I kinda wonder if you're reading too much into it??? like, yeah, sometimes environments don't cater to our individual quirks, but maybe it's not all a conspiracy against you. not everything or everyone trying to help ya out is tying to hold you back; ever thought that maybe adapting could be a stepping stone rather than a setback? look, I get it, I’ve been in situations where I thought everyone was out to mold me into something I'm not, but sometimes it’s just people not knowing how to react to something different, y'know??? 🤔 maybe give people a little more credit, or at least consider that not all changes or challenges are negatives.
i see where you're coming from, but it seems a bit overly critical of your situation. people often say, "the only constant in life is change," and adapting doesn’t mean losing yourself. it's more about growing. i faced a similar thing before and found that the more open i was to others’ perspectives, the more resilient i became. maybe your environment isn't perfect, but it could still offer valuable lessons; staying flexible doesn’t have to mean compromising who you are. keep that door open to growth and transformation, and you might find unexpected support along the way….
I get your frustration, and you're not alone in feeling it. Many face the challenge where their social skills are undervalued due to biased environments. Sometimes, it really seems like society wants everyone to fit into the same mold, right? 🤔 As you mentioned, it reminds me of the saying, "It's not about changing who you are but finding where you fit." You clearly want to be part of a group that values individuality. It's tough, but remember, there are always others out there on similar paths. Stay strong and keep searching for those supportive communities. 💪
I totally feel you. Sounds like you're experiencing a severe "lack of psycho-social support." 😤 I've been there too, where "support" felt like coercion. Society tends to favor "groupthink," and anything divergent faces resistance, no cap. 🧐 Your narrative reminds me of Kafka's infamous bureaucracy—everyone's trying to mold you into conformity. 👥 Met this guy once, similar struggle, he found solace in niche hobby groups, away from typical "social constructs." 🤝 Maybe it could work for you? Remember, "the nail that sticks out gets hammered down," but sometimes the nail just needs to find a different board. Stay strong and keep analyzing!!!
seems like you're dealing with a classic case of "social dynamics gone awry." 🤔 it's not unusual for folks to push others towards conformity. really, it's like they can’t handle individuality. if it makes you feel any better, you're not alone. many people find themselves swimming against the tide, only to discover that the real issue stems from a lack of understanding. drawing from personal observation, finding like-minded individuals or communities can be a game-changer. just a bit of advice, maybe it's time to pivot and seek environments where your individuality is seen as an asset, not a liability. keep doing you!
I hear you on this, and it really resonates with me. 🤔 I've been in similar spots where it feels like the world doesn't really get what you're trying to do, like you're out there on your own path while others are conforming; totally relate to that!!! The thing is, it's not uncommon to feel like support systems are more about fitting you into their idea of "normal" rather than genuinely helping you find your place. The way you describe it sounds like you're dealing with a lot of preconceived notions and prejudices from those around you, and that's truly frustrating. 😞 Once, I found myself navigating similar waters, and the lack of understanding was a real hurdle for me. Keep searching for those who understand and appreciate your unique perspective, because they're out there, and they can make all the difference!!! Stay true to yourself and keep pushing forward. 💪
I can see where you're coming from, but I wonder if perhaps you're interpreting the situation a bit harshly. It’s tempting to view the efforts of others as attempts to mold you into something you’re not, but is it possible that they're just trying to help in the best way they know how? 🤔 In my experience, people often struggle to understand perspectives different from their own, which can lead to actions that seem unsupportive, albeit unintentionally. This isn't to say your feelings aren't valid, just that their motivations might not be as negative as they seem. It's worth considering that sometimes a little flexibility on our part can smooth out these rough patches, making room for growth on both sides. Balancing self-preservation with adaptability can be a real game-changer. So, while it's important to stick to your principles, opening up to others' perspectives might also yield some unexpected benefits in the long run.
I get what you're saying, but maybe you're being a bit too hard on the people around you??? I'm not saying it's easy, but sometimes people aren't trying to box you in; they just don't know how to handle what they don't understand. It's all about perspective, right? Maybe instead of seeing it as a personal attack, try looking at it as a chance to educate them on your viewpoint. People can surprise you!!!! Hang in there, and keep pushing forward, you might find more support than you think. 😊
i get your frustration, but maybe the social dynamics aren't as bleak as they seem? 🤔 i mean, yeah, it feels like you're swimming upstream sometimes, but isn't it possible that some attempts to help are coming from a good place? when i struggled with similar issues, i discovered that some folks just needed a little perspective shift to become supportive. it’s tough, but have you tried approaching those who seem resistant to your views more openly to see if you can find common ground? it might surprise you how people react once they really understand your point of view. 😊
i get where you're coming from, and it sounds like you're dealing with a significant "identity versus conformity" dilemma. it's frustrating when support feels more like pressure to conform. the feeling of being "at the mercy of others" can be overwhelming. 😞 while the therapeutic work you mention seems to suggest seeing issues in a new light, it doesn't always align with how you perceive reality. it's like the famous saying, "not all that glitters is gold." indeed, your desire for stability within your own identity is understandable. it's challenging to find groups that truly reinforce individuality instead of just adapting to their surroundings. keep looking for those who resonate with your values and encourage individuality, as they do exist!