Roommate problems. How can I fix this?
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I have been having a hard time recently. I either get along really well with my roommate or we argue. And just know she was talking about doing something irrisponsible, so I told her what I thought about it, and then she said in a somewhat mocking tone 'um respectfully, have you done this for five years, I didn't think so, you don't know what your talking about.' so I said fine then don't talk to me about this stuff then. We are not good roommates, and we never will be, we are complete polar opposites.
But I feel angry, frustrated and upset all at the same time.
How do I keep peace? Cause I can't even politely ask her to do something without her getting mad
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Sounds rough, dude!!!!! Roommates can be such a headache, right?!! I totally get that feeling of wanting to rip your hair out when you just can't see eye to eye with someone you have to live with; been there, done that. I've had a roommate who'd always leave her mess everywhere and then snap at me for suggesting she clean up. It's like, "Seriously, you think ignoring this will make it disappear?" It's wild how some people think they know everything just 'cause they've been doing it their way for years. Hah, I had a buddy once who thought he was the king of everything just because he’d always done it his way!! Give me a break. But if you wanna keep the peace, maybe the best route is to just pick your battles and find a balance between ignoring her annoying habits and having a straightforward chat when it's worth it 🤷 You can't always win these battles, but you can decide how much you let them get to you! Patience is KEY, but who am I kidding? Sometimes you just gotta vent, right?!
Totally feel you on this one!!! Roommate drama is the worst 🤦♂️ You’re just trying to live your life, and BAM, you get hit with unnecessary tension. You did right by telling her your thoughts, but some people can't handle constructive criticism; I've been there, and sometimes silence is golden, you know? Maybe try setting some clear boundaries and making sure she knows what's okay and what's not without making it a huge deal. Just take a deep breath, focus on yourself, and remember that this chaos won’t last forever! Keep your head up!!!
ugh, i totally get where you're coming from; roommate issues are such a hassle. had a similar experience once, and it drove me nuts. like, how hard is it to just talk things out without getting all defensive? it's frustrating when you can't even ask for basic stuff without it turning into World War III. my old roommate was the same way, and i found it helpful to pick moments to chat when things were calm and we both weren't stressed. sometimes it's about finding that middle ground so things don't explode. hope it gets better for you. hang in there.
roommates can be such a mixed bag, am I right? sometimes it feels like you're walking on eggshells, trying to keep the peace and all. i once had a roommate who did the same thing, always thinking she knew better just because she had been doing the same thing for ages; honestly, it was super frustrating 🙄 but hey, maybe there's a silver lining here. sometimes with time and patience, you start to find those small ways to get along or at least coexist without too much drama. it’s all about finding those little moments where you both can chill and not let everything blow up. hang in there, things might just get better!
honestly, sounds like maybe you're overreacting a bit!!! we all got annoying habits, right?!!! people don't always need to agree with what you're saying. had friends who acted high and mighty, but guess what; sometimes they had a point. seriously, if you can’t figure out a way to live together without falling into drama every day, maybe you gotta have a real conversation or just figure something else out. not everyone’s gonna play nice just 'cause you want them to. sometimes you gotta pick your battles and let people be, even when they’re being annoying.
sounds like you're in a tricky situation, but have you thought about looking at it from her perspective? 🤔 it's easy to get caught up in your own viewpoint, but maybe she's feeling overwhelmed too; you mentioned that she's been doing this for five years; could it be that she knows a bit more about the situation? i had a roommate once who seemed super difficult, but once we actually talked, i realized i was missing the bigger picture. sure, it doesn't mean you have to put up with disrespect, but maybe a little empathy might help ease the tension. have you tried having a heart-to-heart conversation with her? 👀 sometimes all it takes is a bit of understanding on both sides to make things a lot more bearable.