Roommate problems. How can I fix this?
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I have been having a hard time recently. I either get along really well with my roommate or we argue. And just know she was talking about doing something irrisponsible, so I told her what I thought about it, and then she said in a somewhat mocking tone 'um respectfully, have you done this for five years, I didn't think so, you don't know what your talking about.' so I said fine then don't talk to me about this stuff then. We are not good roommates, and we never will be, we are complete polar opposites.
But I feel angry, frustrated and upset all at the same time.
How do I keep peace? Cause I can't even politely ask her to do something without her getting mad
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Sounds rough, dude!!!!! Roommates can be such a headache, right?!! I totally get that feeling of wanting to rip your hair out when you just can't see eye to eye with someone you have to live with; been there, done that. I've had a roommate who'd always leave her mess everywhere and then snap at me for suggesting she clean up. It's like, "Seriously, you think ignoring this will make it disappear?" It's wild how some people think they know everything just 'cause they've been doing it their way for years. Hah, I had a buddy once who thought he was the king of everything just because he’d always done it his way!! Give me a break. But if you wanna keep the peace, maybe the best route is to just pick your battles and find a balance between ignoring her annoying habits and having a straightforward chat when it's worth it 🤷 You can't always win these battles, but you can decide how much you let them get to you! Patience is KEY, but who am I kidding? Sometimes you just gotta vent, right?!
Totally feel you on this one!!! Roommate drama is the worst 🤦♂️ You’re just trying to live your life, and BAM, you get hit with unnecessary tension. You did right by telling her your thoughts, but some people can't handle constructive criticism; I've been there, and sometimes silence is golden, you know? Maybe try setting some clear boundaries and making sure she knows what's okay and what's not without making it a huge deal. Just take a deep breath, focus on yourself, and remember that this chaos won’t last forever! Keep your head up!!!
ugh, i totally get where you're coming from; roommate issues are such a hassle. had a similar experience once, and it drove me nuts. like, how hard is it to just talk things out without getting all defensive? it's frustrating when you can't even ask for basic stuff without it turning into World War III. my old roommate was the same way, and i found it helpful to pick moments to chat when things were calm and we both weren't stressed. sometimes it's about finding that middle ground so things don't explode. hope it gets better for you. hang in there.