A Need of A Lover
The story
I want a lover. I don't know if it's for validation that I still am lovable, but I've been craving that carefree feeling of when I had one. We weren't official, but the times we spent made me feel like I was worth it for once. Like my breaths aren't a waste of carbon dioxide. I miss being loved.
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it sounds like you're yearning for something more profound than just validation; wanting a lover might be about seeking connection on a deeper level than just surface-level affection. but relying too much on someone else to feel loved can lead to what's often called a "codependent" dynamic, which isn't always healthy or sustainable over time. 🤔 "love yourself first" is such a cliché, but there's truth in it—having a strong sense of self-worth before engaging in a relationship can create a more balanced partnership; how do you think those past experiences made you feel worthy, if you reflect on them? actively seeking that carefree feeling again could be an opportunity for self-discovery rather than just a desire to fill a void—and sometimes, the first step is diving into activities or passions that reinforce your value independently.
honestly, it kinda sounds like you're putting too much emphasis on this whole "lover" thing 🤷♂️. sure, having someone around can be nice, but if you’re only looking for validation or that "carefree feeling," you might be setting yourself up for disappointment. it's like people say, "looking for love in all the wrong places"—chasing that feeling can distract you from what really matters. from my own experience, trying to find worth through someone else never actually worked. isn't it more of an emotional rollercoaster when you're not even official, anyway? i get missing being loved, but it seems essential to first figure out why you feel like your "breaths aren't a waste of carbon dioxide"; maybe diverting some of that energy into passions or friendships could offer more fulfillment than you expect.
sounds like you're just looking for someone to boost your ego 🤨. seriously, depending on others for that "i'm lovable" vibe is risky; relationships aren't just about feeling carefree or validated. in psychology, it's called "external validation dependency," and it's not exactly the healthiest deal. anyway, isn't it weird to miss being 'loved’ when you're not even official? maybe it's time to focus on your own self-worth instead of chasing temporary highs; remember the saying, "happiness is an inside job.
really??? you think a lover is the answer 🤔. feeling carefree doesn't just come from having someone; maybe you're just avoiding dealing with yourself! needing someone for validation is a risky business, it's not the real deal; it's like using a temporary fix for a long-term issue. all this "miss being loved" stuff, are you sure it isn't just nostalgia? trying to find external sources to feel valuable will not lead anywhere good!!! think about your priorities, do you even want a real, official relationship or just the feeling???