Am i lesbian or bi?
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sriously guys... am i lesbian or bi?? that's the big question bouncing in my mind these days and honestly, i'm damn tired of it. it's not like anyone makes it easy either. growing up in a household that celebrated being the quintessential conservative model of society didn't exactly leave room for open discussions about anything remotely progressive...or even personal. they held onto their views like lifeboats and expected me to do the same. but here i am, flummoxed and bewildered over my feelings which seem to show up uninvited at the most inconvenient times! seriously, how did they expect me to just fall into line without questioning my own desires?? sex education was a joke at best and non-existent at worst... so naturally, my questions never quite found a satisfactory answer.
do you ever feel lost inside your own head? because that's what venturing into relationships feels like when you're questioning every bit of who you are... not fun. went on dates with guys (yep, doing what was expected of me!!)and sure enough i felt attracted (i suppose?). but then there's this relationship i'm currently in with another woman that started as a complete surprise (a surprise unlike no other revelation i've had) and there goes my equilibrium again! now if only somehow magically poof away all the indoctrination from years past would be gone just so i could get some clarity!!! like maybe love knows no gender boundaries? ha! to tackle burgeoning thoughts daily while deciphering what's social conditioning versus genuine feeling... that's not frustrationally exhausting at all! why's everything gotta be this convoluted puzzle???
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You've basically summed up the frustration with trying to label everything. Labels can be a *@!*# mess sometimes! 🙄 It's so annoying how everyone expects us to just fit perfectly into these neat little boxes. You're dealing with years of conservative brainwashing... that's no small feat! Vent it out, girl, and remember love ain't as clear-cut as society paints it. Facts are facts: trust your heart and ignore the noise!
omg yes!! totally agree with u had sumthn similar happen w/my rigid fam its crazy.
isn't it wild how so many of us have that story in common? like our families read from the same outdated manual or something! trying to figure this out with all that noise in the background is an adventure i never signed up for...
Why question your identity?
It's not so much about questioning my identity for the sake of it, but more about trying to understand these feelings that came out of nowhere. It's like trying to solve a puzzle with missing pieces, you know?
I mean, it sounds like you're in sort of a crazy headspace right now; it's like trying to keep your balance on a tightrope with everyone shouting stuff at you from the sidelines. It's tough growing up with certain expectations and then trying to figure yourself out when things don't exactly fit that mold 🤔 I guess sometimes just letting things be and experiencing them without labels can maybe help? Like taking things one day at a time rather than overthinking every detail might bring some clarity...or so I've heard anyway!
Your situation sounds incredibly frustrating!!! Navigating those waters of self-discovery is a complex algorithm, especially when layered with societal and familial expectations. I can't solve it for you....but here's something that worked for me when I faced similar dilemmas: consider taking time to explore how you're feeling without the pressures of labels; they add unnecessary constraints. Be patient with yourself as you unravel what seems like a maze right now... sometimes stepping back and observing your feelings over time sheds more light than forcefully trying to define everything at once. Be kind to yourself through this process! it's important!
It's great that you're questioning and exploring, but have you considered what it would look like to give yourself time without rushing a label?
yo i feel you, the whole figuring-out-your-sexuality thing can be such a mind-bender!
Your story is really thought-provoking but have you considered talking to someone who might help guide you through understanding your true feelings more clearly? It might help lift some of that burden off your shoulders if it's an option.
hey. been through something like this too albeit different circumstances. childhood environments affect us so significantly don't they? identifying our true selves against those ingrained values sounds pretty challenging
how long have you been feeling confused tho? might give insight on when these doubts began setting in for ya too.
so you're going through a bit of an identity labyrinth, huh?
Growing up, I once asked my mom why some people loved differently and got a death stare with zero answer... it's wild how those childhood echoes still rattle around in our heads. It's like, society tries to fit us into these little boxes made for their convenience while we struggle with questions that don't have clear-cut answers!!! Anyway, maybe try focusing on the present moment and what brings you joy without worrying too much about labels or past influences; there's no rush to "figure it all out". Just let your feelings guide you as crazy as they may seem sometimes!
Hey, I feel you! It’s honestly exhausting trying to figure things out when you're stuck in a ping-pong match with your feelings and societal expectations?! Being from a conservative background really adds to that pressure, huh? Like whose life are we even living sometimes... Maybe it's not about just choosing sides immediately; let yourself experience all this madness a bit at your pace. There ain't no rush to slap on a label; emotions are allowed to be messy and unpredictable 😉✨
Ugh, you totally get it. It's a tangled mess. Giving myself freedom to just be messy sounds kind of liberating though, even if it's nerve-wracking!
I think ur kinda overthinking things tbh its not alwAys abt upbringing r smthin ppl r just curious n later discover whr they actually belong isnt it??? possibility u strugglin coz ur brain stuck on finding definitive label btwn those strict teachings u've hd bak tm przvation tah prsnl xprnce
Dude, no offense, but maybe you're overthinking this a bit too much. It's like you're trying to fit all these feelings into a neat little box with a bow on top, but guess what? Life's messy and doesn't play by those rules! 😵💫 You don't have to decide right this second whether you're bi or lesbian or whatever; why not just roll with the punches for now? Sometimes it's chill to be in that gray area and see where your heart leads without slapping some label on it just cuz society's breathing down your neck. But hey, that's just my two cents...
relate partially but gender dont always matter!
"Gender don’t always matter" hit me hard that!!
wow totally get where you're coming from vibes changing based on new experiences changes context deeply within oneself happened similarly when i met someone who reshaped my perspective completely!
usually keep small things private but got a cousin going through something similar figuring out their preferences after their first same-gender crush confused them big time lol turns out we humans are way complicated!