attachment issues
The story
there's this guy im very attached to and like. But things ended like 2 years ago and i still miss him at times and feel like im going crazy all the time cuz hes in my head 24/7 which is very annoying. I have tried literally everything from no contact to no stalking and everything but after a few months i end up having crash outs from feeling loneliness and just missing him. That guy has zero interest in me. Doesnt want me. I feel like i might move on if i were to date someone else but i dont wanna date right now i just wanna focus on myself and live my life. And maybe look for a partner when i want to settle down or get married. What do i do. This guy that i really really like what do i do about it now. He ghosts me avoids me but i just wished he would block me instead of just ghosting. And kind of everything that happened between us broke me so much i dont think i'll ever even wanna be in a relationship ever again.
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aw hun 🫂
Yo, I've been there! It feels like a punch to the gut when you can't shake off someone who's clearly not into it anymore. Honestly, if he's ghosting you and all that jazz, it's a blessing in disguise, kinda like ripping the band-aid off. Focus on what's good for you now. Maybe try something new that doesn't involve him at all? 🤷♂️ Trust me, sometimes diving into your passions or hobbies can help clear your mind and give some fresh vibes. Things'll get better with time... for real!
I get that ur missing him man it’s hard to forget bout people u cared for but maybe focus more on ur own stuff. i'm not the best wth relationships either, and i found tht just doin new actvities helped me b distracted.
Maybe just time?
man, that sounds super tough; it's like your brain just won't let go even though you know he's not the one for you. 😕 maybe part of it is just about giving yourself time because moving on can be such a slow process sometimes. ever think about picking up a new hobby or something? distract yourself with fun things and people who make you feel good. who knows, by diving into stuff that makes you happy, might help ease those lingering thoughts over time. 🤔
have you tried therapy?
Break the cycle…
I stayed single for years too…
i 100% feel you. there was a girl i couldn't shake off my mind even though she moved on so fast. sometimes you need to give yourself credit just to breathe.
this sucks big time but maybe write down your feelings in a journal or something when they pop up, it might be a way to process everything; sometimes seeing your own words can help make sense of the chaos inside and slowly let you release some of that hold he has on you.
You could try focusing on hobbies?!
sometimes i wonder if our minds just get stuck on someone because there's this unresolved feeling, you know? maybe it's that idea of closure we never got that keeps us hooked. i've been in a similar spot before, feeling like i'm on a hamster wheel of emotions with no real end in sight. 🤔 one thing that helped me was talking it out with a friend who didn't judge, just listened. having that safe space to vent without holding back was such a relief. and maybe you don't want to date right now, but surrounding yourself with different kinds of support systems could bring some unexpected comfort too. it's like building your own little sanctuary in the chaos.
Why let it consume you?
Sometimes space is what you need. If this guy isn’t helping you by ghosting, maybe time away would let you find better direction without that constant reminder.
feeling stuck on someone is such a mental prison, isn't it??!! even knowing logically he’s not interested doesn't make it easier to tell your heart to shut up. maybe what's nagging is all those "what ifs" you’re holding onto. have you thought about doing something symbolic to kinda draw a line in the sand? like writing him a letter you never send or getting rid of stuff that reminds you of him? it's pretty wild how just doing something physical can help mess with those stubborn brain patterns!
r u sure tho
kinda feels like a phase cuz when my ex broke up with me I was devastated at first then eventually things got better when I focused on myself and my goals.
Man, I totally get where you're coming from. Back in the day, there was someone who had me wrapped around their finger even after things ended. It felt like they were renting space in my head without paying rent! 😅 One thing that kinda helped me was getting into new activities that I wasn’t familiar with before; it shifted my focus and gave me a fresh perspective on stuff. You know, you mentioned not wanting to date right now, and that's cool—sometimes being solo gives you the clarity you need. 😉
Back when I couldn't stop thinking about this girl from my past, I threw myself into learning how to play guitar; it's like focusing on something entirely new can kind of reboot your brain and keep you sane.
You move on but still there's hope right?
'ts easier if u just block n stop waitin 4 him u know
maybe ur expecting too much idk
*sigh* have u honestly thought bout other stuff that really makin u hold onto these feelings or iz it somethin else goin on making it hard for ya mt heart hurts for u tho...