Help me..
The story
Basically, i liked this guy ever since middle school and he recently asked me out! Good right? NO! I have this problem where when someone likes me back i try to find things that are bad about them, like hes not even that cute nor is he unique. And when we do break up, i end up feeling sad bcz i really liked the person but i also feel relieved?? I DONT KNOW WHATS GOING ON HELP ME PLESS
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isn't it funny how our minds can play such tricks on us? 😅 it's like we have this subconscious defense mechanism to protect ourselves from potential heartbreak by magnifying their flaws... but it's also possible that deep down, you're just not entirely convinced about the relationship's long-term viability; i've been in similar situations where i found myself nitpicking at someone i genuinely liked. over time, though, i've learned to focus more on what truly fulfills me and what qualities i value in a partner instead of getting caught up in unnecessary doubts. hope you find clarity amidst the confusion! 😊
sometimes it feels like our brain just goes into overdrive, picking apart everything 😅 honestly, maybe it's a way of protecting ourselves from getting too attached or hurt; could be you're not fully ready for a relationship right now, and that's okay! you might want to take some time to figure out what you really want in a partner so that next time you're more certain about your feelings 🙂 i mean, no one wants to settle for "not even that cute," right? just remember that it's super important to be honest with yourself about what makes you happy; good luck navigating through this!
could it be that you're experiencing a kind of cognitive dissonance, where your feelings for him conflict with underlying beliefs about what you think you deserve in a relationship; do you think exploring this might help clarify your emotions?