how does it truely feel to be loved?
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how does it feel to be loved? not by family or friends but in a genuine relationship way. i’ve recently graduated high school and am moving to college soon yet looking back i don’t know if i’ve actually really liked much less loved any of the guys i’ve dated or talked to. it’s not that they were terrible people (though some weren’t exactly good people either) but i’ve never felt genuine connection nor affection. lately this summer i’ve been pretty lonely; the two friends i do have have already gone to school and im just left alone in this town with my thoughts. i know there are ways to experience love other ways but i just want a genuine connection and feel affection. i have a pretty shitty relationship with my parents and rest of the family and a pretty shitty senior year so i really don’t know. do you know when you meet them? is there a specific moment? i really just want someone to talk to.
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y'know, it's tough to pinpoint exactly what that genuine connection feels like; love ain't a science experiment with clear-cut answers. people romanticize it as some "bolt out of the blue," but sometimes it's just... being at ease with someone, wanting to include them in your mundane moments. if you've had a screwed up senior year and rocky family relationships, maybe it makes sense you're craving something authentic and real. don't second-guess yourself too much; college does open up new avenues for connections and you might find more compatible people there. trust the process but remember that personal growth happens first before these things fall into place.
I can totally relate to that feeling of searching for a genuine connection; when I first started college, I was in a similar spot and felt kind of adrift without those deeper relationships.
It's rough feeling adrift without that connection you're longing for. 😕 You know, genuine love isn't always this big fireworks display, sometimes it's the small things like finding comfort in silence with someone or sharing a stupid laugh; I get where you're coming from with wanting something real and meaningful. When I first met the person I really clicked with, it wasn't some "aha" moment but more of a gradual realization that they just made life better. Heading to college could be your chance to meet people who truly resonate with you, but don't rush it or force it. Sometimes focusing on understanding and developing yourself opens up those opportunities naturally; just hang in there!
It might be worth focusing on making new friends first rather than worrying about relationships.
That's a good point! Friends can offer a lot of support even if it's not romantic.
It’s totally okay to not have felt that connection yet! Love isn’t always an instant spark, it can grow over time and surprise you. Moving to a new place like college will really open up chances to meet all sorts of people, so there’s hope just around the corner!!! ✨ Remember, genuine connections take time and you’re at the starting line of exciting adventures; stay positive and let things unfold naturally.
kind of feel where you're coming from; having a crappy senior year and family drama only adds to the loneliness during summer. it's like everyone expects you to have your stuff together by college, but who really does? genuine connection, man, it feels less forced and more like... home; when someone's interest in you is real, you'll know because they'll put in effort. don't sweat feeling lost; many find their people later on. also keep an eye for those "oh crap, they're actually listening" moments because that's when you might spot a real one.
It's understandable to feel uncertain about what love actually feels like, especially at a pivotal time like this. However, I would caution against treating it as something that you must experience immediately; sometimes it's okay to allow things to progress naturally without overthinking them. As you're heading into college, focus on enjoying new experiences and meeting people without the pressure of seeking out romantic relationships. Often, genuine connections happen when you're not searching for them so don't stress too much over it!
Sometimes I wonder the same thing, like how do you even know if what you're feeling is real love or just a strong liking. We always hear about ‘love at first sight’ and ‘the one,’ but maybe it’s different for everyone? Maybe there's not just one moment where it clicks. College could be a place to explore these feelings with less pressure and more chances to meet people who resonate with you.
Honestly, sounds like you're putting too much pressure on yourself to find this "genuine" connection right away.
You’ll find that connection eventually, but remember it takes time and patience too.