Sorry if this sounds like I'm making unnecessary issues
The story
So, yeah. I'm 13, and love, romantic love is...weird. I think I'm ace, but I don't know, I do sometimes crave for love from any gender. Like, why should gender matter? But I feel weird. Like, nobody's dating where I live, very few do, but I don't know. I just feel scared of that kinda relationship. You know, things could go wrong, really WRONG. What if that person's cheating, a fraud, very toxically passive-aggressive and mean that way, or you just start arguing out of nowhere and break up. It's happened to real couples, they seem fine until they fall out of love and fight til they fall down from exhaustion. It'll just happen. I've seen so many people, teens, fall in love in flings, and Wham! They break up for many reasons, they were morons, they found another fling, their parents called it forbidden love, one or both become abusive, or just move away with family. It's an unnecessary risk, which is why at this age, I'm scared and disgusted and ashamed. Why fall in love, if this is the risk independent love causes? That's one of the many benefits arranged marriages carry, it's stable, predictable, normal, because someone decided you to be with someone. In stories, they fall in love genuinely, better than their own romance!
I never understood why I was against the idea of love where you're in charge, because there are all those risks I mentioned. For some reason, my idiotic heart wants to be in love when I think of me in a nice relationship, but when it thinks that way I say to myself, "WHAT THE!? WHY ARE YOU FEELING THIS?! YOU WANT THEM TO FIND YOU IN A MALL, A PARK, A CLASSROOM, A SUPERMARKET OR ANYWHERE ELSE WHERE YOU WANT THEM TO EVEN BE YOUR FRIEND!? THAT ONLY HAPPENS IN MOVIES YOU DUMMY! IT ONLY HAPPENS IN FICTION WHERE YOU EITHER BEAUTIFULLY OR AWKWARDLY MEET SOMEONE SOMEWHERE, BECAUSE IN REAL LIFE, YOU NEVER WILL! YOU READ DOLLY ALDERTON'S BOOK, SHE NEVER FOUND A RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE SHE TREATED THEM LIKE EARNING POKEMON CARDS, NOT REAL LOVE AND SHE REALIZED THIS LATE! STOP THINKING ABOUT BEING IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE, BECAUSE IN THIS WORLD, IT'S IMPOSSIBLE TO FIND SOMEONE TO SNUGGLE, CUDDLE IN BED, SHARE FOOD, SHARE CLOTHES AND HAVE A NICE TIME WITH THAT YOU LIKE, IT'S IMPOSSIBLE! YOU HAVE THE FACE OF A GOBLIN, YOU HAVE INTERESTS IN THINGS NOBODY KNOWS, NOT EVEN THE ADULTS, YOU'RE SHORT, AND YOU CAN BE MEAN AS HELL WHEN YOU'RE ANGRY! WHY ARE YOU EVEN THINKING ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS, THIS YOUNG AND WHILE BEING THIS STUPID!? GAH, WHENEVER YOU READ THOSE STUPID ROMANCE BOOKS YOU WANT A PIECE OF THAT PIE AS WELL, YOU'RE SELFISH! YOU'VE SEEN EUPHORIA, CASSIE SEARCHED SO MUCH FOR 'LOVE' IT HURTED HER AND SHE DATED FREAKIN' NATE JACOBS AND MCKAY, BOTH ARE JERKS! BEING SINGLE IS COOL, SO WHY EVEN BOTHER?! WHY ARE YOU EVEN LONGING?! TO FILL OUT THE FACT YOU DIDN'T EVEN HAVE A FRIEND FOR 7 YEARS BECAUSE OF YOU!? YOU SHOULD'VE SPOKEN ABOUT THEM ONLY, GAWKED ABOUT HOW GREAT THEY ARE COMPARED TO YOU, AND NEVER EVER HAVE BEEN SARCASTICALLY MEAN! HECK, YOU'LL NOT EVEN GET FRIENDS EVER AT THIS RATE! WHAT PRISON AHVE I PUT MYSELF INTO WITH THIS IDEA OF 'LOVE' I SO MUCH WANT?! IT'S A WANT, AND NEEDS ARE MORE IMPORTANT!"
Just, why? I bet this is my dumb hormones acting up, I bet I'll be fine isolated from the world. I bet I'll be happier either alone or in an arranged marriage. You introverts love being alone with your thoughts, right? I can be that person, not the one who falls in love again and again with bad people, or with her being the issue and ruining the relationship.
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You seem pretty caught up in the idea of relationships as a minefield, and while it's good to be cautious, you're missing out on the fact that part of growing up is navigating these feelings and experiences!! 🤗😉
Relationships aren’t all about drama and heartbreak... Sure, they can go south, but they’re also about learning who you are with someone else and how to communicate effectively... And by the way, thinking love only happens like in movies isn’t realistic: real-life connections often surprise you when you least expect it!! Don't rush into deciding your stance on love; give yourself time to grow into it naturally without judgment... 🙂
Man, I get it, love can feel super confusing and terrifying at times. 😅 At 13, it makes sense to be all over the place with these feelings. Trust me, it's totally normal to be scared of relationships going wrong: everyone thinks about that stuff sometimes. But hey, don't beat yourself up too much! You’re still figuring out who you are and what love even means for you.
it’s okay to feel conflicted about love and relationships at your age!!! there's no rush to figure it all out right now, so just let yourself explore these feelings without pressure.
your perspective on love seems excessively negative??? while it's wise to be aware of potential risks, you're painting a bleak picture that doesn't align with everyone's experience; relationships can be fulfilling and educational if approached sensibly. maybe instead of seeing arranged marriages as the only stable option, consider that personal choice in love also offers growth and individuality. balancing caution with hope might lead to healthier views on relationships;
Wow, you're really deep in thought about this! But you know what? A lot of people go through these ups and downs when thinking about future relationships, especially at your age. 😜
wow, your thoughts on love are really intense! but you know what, it's okay to have these mixed feelings at 13; everything seems so big and complicated right now. nobody has it all figured out overnight. arranged marriages might seem like a safer bet, but personal choice in love has its own value too; you get to discover what really matters to you. try not to stress too much about it though; you've got heaps of time to explore what's gonna work for you. just be patient with yourself while you're on this journey 😊
It's quite understandable to feel overwhelmed by the complexities of love and relationships, especially at such a young age!
hey there, it's totally normal to feel all mixed up about love at your age, especially when you're surrounded by so many crazy stories and examples; it feels like everyone's either head over heels or crashing and burning 😅 relationships are complex, for sure, but they can also surprise you in pretty great ways when you least expect; don't feel pressured to figure everything out now... just let yourself explore these feelings!
dude, you’re at that age where everything feels unpredictable and it’s totally understandable to feel overwhelmed by the idea of love. but maybe look at it like a journey, not a destination; yeah, relationships can be tricky, but they also teach you about yourself in ways nothing else can. it's okay to be cautious, just don't let fear dictate your choices; take your time and explore what genuinely makes you happy without overthinking it!
wow, it's wild how much you're thinking about love at just 13! i think it's great that you're questioning things and trying to make sense of it all; honestly, having these kinds of worries is pretty normal. you don't have to rush into anything or even understand everything right now!! it's all part of the journey to figuring out who you are; remember, everyone's path is different so take your time and trust yourself.
Man, I totally get why you're wrestling with all these thoughts on love; it's a lot to process especially at 13. It's crazy how sometimes what we want can also freak us out, huh? But honestly, whether you end up in an arranged marriage or find someone naturally, there's really no right or wrong way to go about it; everyone has their own path and experiences. Life's unpredictable like that, so don't let fear of the unknown hold you back too much; maybe just roll with it and see where things take you, buddy!
It's totally understandable to have these worries, especially when you're just starting to figure all this out! Your feelings about love and relationships seem intense but remember that it's perfectly normal to feel a mix of excitement and apprehension. You've mentioned arranged marriages as being stable, which makes me wonder: what is it about the predictability of them that appeals to you? It's interesting how every approach has its pros and cons, and there's no one-size-fits-all method for anyone. Take your time!! there's no rush to decide how you want to navigate love!
hey there, it's totally normal to have mixed feelings about love and relationships at your age; i remember feeling overwhelmed by the whole concept myself when i was younger. one thing that helped me was realizing that there's no rush to figure everything out – you have time to explore what works for you! while arranged marriages might seem like the safer choice, they aren't necessarily risk-free or guaranteed happiness either; life has its twists and turns, and that's part of the adventure. keep an open mind and allow yourself to grow naturally, without putting too much pressure on figuring it all out right now 📚
whoa, your take on love is powerful and kind of heavy 😅 but seriously, feeling all those emotions and fears about relationships at 13 is like, totally normal! it's kinda like being on a rollercoaster of feelings and thoughts; i've been there too. i remember thinking i'd never find someone because of my own weirdness or insecurities... but honestly? life has this funny way of surprising you when you least expect it!!! 😊 just keep an open mind; you might find love in ways that aren't planned out like arranged marriages or movie plots XX
Hey, first off, it's totally cool to have all these thoughts swirling around in your mind right now. You're at an age where everything feels so big and intense, and that's completely normal! I remember being 13 and thinking love was this gigantic mystery too. You've got time to figure it out, no rush needed. One thing I've learned is that feeling scared or unsure about relationships doesn't mean they're not worth exploring when you're ready. It's okay to want companionship but also feel hesitant; growing up is all about balancing those feelings without stress. Take it easy on yourself; every little experience adds up to who you are becoming, so give yourself room to grow and explore at your own pace! 🌟