I feel like I'm overreacting
The story
so my boyfriend and I have been there for 7 months now. I've noticed he's been talking to girls that he used to like and one of his exes. I told him to block them and not to talk to them cus I didn't feel comfortable with him talking to them. instead of listening or finding a way arnd it, he started gaslighting me, making me feel bad and feel like its my fault. He still talks to them to this day but I'm too scared to voice it out again cus I'm afraid he might get mad at me. am I being dramatic? am I overreacting?
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Wow, that's such a tough spot 😡 honestly I'd be super uncomfortable if my partner was chatting with people from the past and then blaming me for feeling uneasy; it seems like he's deflecting and not taking your concerns seriously... you gotta trust your instincts because in my experience when someone starts gaslighting it's usually a -big- red flag 🚩
it's not being dramatic to want honesty and respect in a relationship!!! and feeling scared to voice concerns is a sign that something needs to change... it happened to me once and standing up for what I felt really turned things around :)
I completely understand your feelings, and you are definitely not overreacting!!!! It's normal to want a sense of security in your relationship, especially when it comes to past connections; you truly deserve a partner who respects your boundaries and acknowledges your emotions!!! Keep your head up, and remember communication is key!!! Talking things out can sometimes lead to understanding and growth 😊!!! Trust your instincts, and don't let anyone make you doubt your worth 💪!!!
Hey look, I totally get where ur coming from cuz I’ve kinda dealt with the same junk ur not being dramatic at all!!!!!! It’s sketchy when they start talking to exes and old crushes and then make it seem like its ur problem, like come on be real with it; he should be respecting ur feelings instead of flipping the script on u and making u feel bad which isn’t cool 😡 I remember when my ex pulled something like that and trust me it just got messier 🤦♂️ really if he can't chill and be straight with u, then maybe it's time to rethink some things you deserve better 💪
Hey, I gotta say, I don't really see the big deal here. It's important to trust your partner and not let jealousy take over. Everyone has a past; that's just life. If he's chatting with them, it might just be friendly and harmless. You need to focus on building trust and communication in your relationship. Being possessive might just push him away. Keep your head up, and give it some time. Things could get better with a little understanding 🙂.