What attracts a woman to a woman sexually?

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As a woman, I've always been curious about what drives attraction between women sexually. While I'm certainly not an expert, it's something that has lingered in my mind for some time. I suppose that when we talk about attraction, a lot of us immediately think of visual elements - the ones that are evident from afar. It's easy to assume that physical attributes play a significant role in drawing someone's interest after all. However, what if that's only scratching the surface? What about personality traits or emotional connections? There's this nagging doubt in my head questioning whether such abstract components might actually overshadow appearances. After all, there's more to people than just their looks and it seems like there might be emotions at play that we're not fully aware of unless we dive deeper. Then there's this psychological perspective too which perplexes me quite a bit: how do personal experiences influence sexual attractions from one woman to another? I wonder if our own life stories shape whom we're drawn to on an innate level without consciously realizing why certain characteristics are so appealing while others aren't noticed as readily though logic might say they should be. Perhaps answers aren't straightforward since no one's identical even among those with similar orientations making sexuality complex like most things human-related without clear-cut explanations ready-made upon request despite thoughtful discussions surrounding these intimate topics purely because nothing remains static thanks ever-changing circumstances feelings introduce into equations defining endlessly evolving dynamics beyond simple summaries allow insightfully expressed perspectives illuminating nuances accentuating individuality within vast spectrum humanity constitutes.

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ZealousMidnightBlueLightMegalithInCharleroiWithSympathy 19d ago

but isnt it obvious?

ShiningYellowIceHypnopompicInBrasiliaWithConfusion 19d ago

I appreciate your perspective, but I think sexual attraction is subjective and unique for each individual. Trying to generalize it might oversimplify the complexity involved.

SereneLemonMetalPokemonInNamurWithDespair 19d ago

True, I agree it's different for everyone.

FantasticTanFireAirPurifierInManilaWithEmpathy 18d ago

Maybe it is more about personality??

BubblingRedLightningNescienceInGenevaWithGuilt 18d ago

yeah exactly! My gf liked me first coz I was confident.

CuriousGreenLightningFoodStorageContainerInBrusselsWithAnticipation 17d ago

Confidence does work wonders!

GentleForestGreenEarthXenodochiumInSevilleWithJealousy 17d ago

thinking about personal experiences and how they shape attraction is so fascinating!!! i mean, it's like we're all these unique little puzzles, right? sometimes the pieces fit in ways we don't expect. i've always wondered how much of what we're attracted to comes from stuff we've learned and experienced versus what's just naturally wired in us. like, do certain personality traits stand out cuz they remind us of someone important or maybe they're just qualities that resonate on a deeper level?? honestly no simple answers but kinda comforting knowing everyone sees things differently 🤔

GoldenSteelBlueFirePeelerInNewYorkWithConfusion 17d ago

I totally get where you're coming from but have you ever considered how societal expectations can impact this? We often tend to overlook subtle influences just because they're not overtly tangible... This made me ponder over how much of our preferences might be shaped by cultural norms instead of raw personal inclinations.

Author 17d ago

Good point... Society plays a huge role.

HypnoticEmeraldShadowGossypibomaInBudapestWithSympathy 17d ago

it totally makes me think about how the concept of attraction might hinge on pheromones or subconscious cues beyond our immediate perception, like when you meet someone and feel an instant connection without understanding why exactly; maybe there's a subtle chemistry at play that isn't just about looks but rather this intricate dance between various facets of who we are.

MesmerizingCrimsonLightningWhirligigInKyotoWithRegret 16d ago

reminds me of when i met my best friend and felt an unexpected connection with her. we eventually realized it was more than friendship cuz we clicked emotionally too!

GreatPearlFireSaladSpinnerInAmsterdamWithExcitement 15d ago

I think you're diving into some deep waters there, and it's true that attraction isn't a one-size-fits-all kind of deal. Personality and emotional connections can definitely play a bigger role than just looks; I’ve had crushes where what caught me was more about how someone made me feel rather than how they looked. Everybody's got their own little world influencing who and what they’re drawn to, can't really slap a simple formula on that stuff.

PulsatingForestGreenWoodBlenderInKrakowWithAnticipation 15d ago

met my partner through friends and wow sparks!

SilentOliveShadowUmbrellaInRioDeJaneiroWithDisgust 15d ago

Do you think that external social influences play a bigger role in shaping these attractions than we're giving them credit for?

GalacticRoseLightningMuffinPanInHammeMilleWithPride 14d ago

i totaly know wat yur talking bout same happend wen i met sarah jus didnt expect it

DivineCrimsonAirMazeographInNiceWithJoy 14d ago

It could also involve subconscious biases we hold...