My bestfriend keeps telling things on my behalf(i didnt ask)
The story
Technically its not much of a school story but i couldnt find a similair tag.
My best friend(ill call her B) tends to say things on my behalf and it started off sort of small, she told our homeroom teacher that i had a mental problem which was why i was frequently not doing the homework, of course i was mad but i let it go but after that, people would come up to me and say "you have adhd, right?" Or just screaming "you have autism!" In the halls (both of which i dont have) i wasnt bothered much but it tends to get annoying if people just point and stare for something i dont have. Another thing she does oh so nicely on my behalf(note the sarcasm) is go up to my other bestfriend ( ill call her v, we are a trio) after they get into a fight which was practically happening every two dats or so, and hand her a note stating that she, B and i wont be friends with her anymore, i had no say in this and i keep ask her to stop since im never involved in their fights and would like to still be friends with v but she still included my name. After a big fight between them( i dont know what for) B stopped being friends with V even though v tried to make up and become friends again, ofc its her choice and id respect it but! She clearly doesnt respect mine since whenever i try to talk to V ( we are still close) she just comes up and goes " why are you talking to our classmate" in the most 'i want you to leave' tone and then grabs my hand and drags me away from her but she still manages to get jealous when v makes new friends and slowly distances from us. Im not sure if i should keep quiet or if i should just ask her to stop. Im just worried if i speak up that i would lose B, we are close and i feel safe around her, i dont want to destroy that.
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Hey there! 😊 I gotta say, your story hits a nerve with me, but I've got to respectfully disagree with how you're handling things. It sounds like "B" is trying to control the narrative, which isn't cool; maybe she's just misunderstood, but that's no excuse for stretching the truth. Growing up, I had a friend who also spoke for me a lot, and it took a heart-to-heart for us to find some common ground. "Honesty is the best policy," as they say. One thing I learned is that being upfront, while maintaining mutual respect, can really clear the air. You've got your feelings and desires, and they're just as valid as anyone else's. Keep communicating, and hopefully, everything will sort itself out. ✌️
sounds like you're letting "B" walk all over you 😒 you really think that's gonna help your situation? it's honestly hard to believe why you'd let someone do this much damage to your other friendships 😬 letting "B" speak for you is a big no-no 🙄 if she's really your friend she wouldn't act like that… seems like you're caught up in some unnecessary drama and it's dragging you down! you should seriously rethink how you handle this mess instead of just accepting it! come on, you deserve better than this toxic vibe 🤷♂️
i gotta say, i really feel for your situation. it sounds like "B" is kind of overstepping, but i get that it's hard to confront a friend; keeping the peace is important too. you're totally justified in wanting to set boundaries!!! maybe having a chill, honest convo with "B" could help clear the air and sort things out. it's tough, but balance is possible!!! just hang in there and keep being true to yourself. it's all about finding that equilibrium!!! 💪✨
yo i get your story but dude come on 😅 you're letting "B" have too much control over your life! seems like you need to step up and set some boundaries... if you let this slide it ain't gonna get better 🙄 your friendship with "V" is important too, don't let "B" mess that up!!! talking it out could fix things maybe...?? just saying 🤷♀️
Hey there, I read your post and I must say, your situation sounds quite challenging. 😅 Honestly, I'm a bit surprised that you've allowed "B" to dictate so much about your relationships and interactions. It's often said, "We teach people how to treat us," and it seems like setting some boundaries with "B" might be crucial here.
I remember a time when I had to have a straightforward conversation with a friend overstepping their bounds, and though it was uncomfortable, it was worthwhile. It’s doubtful letting this continue unchecked will bring any positive change. Your friendship with "V" seems valuable, and it’s worth preserving on your own terms. A bit of open dialogue might just be what you need to clear the air. 🤔
hey there, read your story, and it really got me thinking 🤔 seems like "B" is kind of running the show with your friendships a bit more than what's chill. i mean, it's important to have your own voice, right? you ever heard the saying, "good fences make good neighbors"? well, it kind of fits here; setting some boundaries might really help things out. not saying it's easy, but it might be worth a shot. when i dealt with something similar, having an open conversation helped a lot. maybe it could work for you too 😊 direct talks can feel awkward, but they clear up so much confusion. keep doing you, and good luck!
sounds like you’re dealing with a complex social dynamic here. it's often said, "communication is key," but it seems like there's a lack of that between you and "B". the behavior "B" is exhibiting might be considered overstepping boundaries in interpersonal relations. maybe consider a direct conversation to clarify expectations and resolve conflicts. it could lead to a better understanding for all parties involved. hope it helps 🙂