Can a narcissist love?
The story
I gotta say, I've been in a really confusing headspace lately. So I just discovered that my partner might be narcissistic or at least show some tendencies like seriously? My friend told me "Oh once a narcissist, always a narcissist" and that they're completely incapable of genuine love and connection!!! Kinda bold right? But here’s the thing: I do see moments where my partner actually seems to care for real. We're talking about those rare but precious little sparkles of affection that almost fool you into thinking there's something deeper inside them. 💔 Like last week when they surprised me with dinner after knowing I had a rough day. Was that pure manipulation or actual affection? Dammit, this whole thing just messes with my perception...
So what's true? Are they doomed to only care about themselves??? I'm stuck wondering if I'm in la-la land, holding on to illusions... 🙄 It sucks because I feel like I'm being pulled between giving this person the benefit of the doubt and protecting myself from becoming an emotional punching bag again... From other people's stories online (yeah yeah, ignore those internet advice warriors), it sounds like living with a full-blown narc is an exhausting nightmare full of gaslighting and constant drama. Still, each time they do something genuinely nice it makes me pause...am I underestimating their capacity for love or am I just reading too much into what could be simple manipulations??? Ugh!!! All in all ain’t wanna ignore these red flags while part of me stupidly hopes people can change even just a bit... Anyone else questioning their sanity dealing with someone who shows two faces?? 😩
