My boyfriend has a porn addiction

Finding out your partner is hiding porn can really mess with your head, and I get that feeling of "is it me?

Not all guys do!!

it's tough when you're questioning everything like that, especially when trust is being chipped away; sometimes people have different views on what boundaries are okay in a relationship, but it sounds like you need to have another serious chat about this because it's affecting how you feel.

it's kinda surprising to hear him use the "every guy does it" line like it's some kind of universal truth. i get people have their own habits but when it starts affecting your relationship, that's a different ball game. having it in a folder labeled "work documents," is such a rookie move tho and feels kinda disrespectful to you, honestly 🤷‍♂️ maybe he's not seeing the impact it's having on your relationship or he's just trying to downplay it. it's understandable to feel not appreciated or even start doubting yourself in this situation but remember, his actions don't define your worth! consider talking again with him about how much this bothers you or maybe rethink what you want from the relationship if things don't change.

sounds like a frustrating situation. 😬 i mean, it does seem pretty careless to label something so obvious; like come on dude... but questioning if it's your fault might not be the right angle here. sometimes people just have habits that are hard to shake off. putting all guys in one basket by saying "every guy does it" feels like a cop-out and doesn't address the issue at hand😟.

communication could help, sure, but only if both sides are willing; otherwise it's a solo effort. 🙃 hope you figure out what works for you because feeling appreciated should be a given, not an exception!

idk maybe talk 2 him again?

yo, that sounds super frustrating, and hiding stuff like that does break some trust. 😑 maybe it’s not about you at all, honestly; people just have weird habits sometimes. if you've already tried talking to him and he still brushes you off, maybe sit him down for a serious chat about boundaries and respect... before it gets even more toxic; good luck with whatever decision you make.

honestly it's kinda weird he would hide it in such an obvious place. keeping secrets isn't cool tho. try setting boundaries cause otherwise it'll eat away at you both.

It sucks when your trust feels questioned like this. It's not just about him stashing porn; it's about what it signifies for your relationship. When it seems like he's prioritizing something else over real connection with you, it's tough to feel valued. I've been in a similar spot before, and self-doubt can creep in hard. But seriously, remember that his actions don't reflect on you or your value. Maybe think about setting some clear boundaries and see if he's willing to meet halfway; if not, maybe it's worth considering whether this is the kind of partnership you truly want long term.

I went through this too and trust issues were so hard to resolve afterward. tried working on communication together as partners and made improvements gradually.

yup ur cray lol