do fearful avoidants come back?

sounds like you're dealing with the classic magician act where they know every trick to make themselves disappear, then reappear just when you're about to walk away and yeah, those hopes of a surprise return can be more mysterious than alien crop circles because let's face it, sometimes waiting for that ping of a notification feels like standing in line for a concert that's perpetually sold out.

i totally feel you on this one cuz my ex did the same thing to me! they'd disappear for weeks only to show up again acting normal like nothing happened.

Man, I totally get that you're caught up in this cycle of uncertainty!

It's perplexing how people can just vanish without a trace when things seem to be going well, isn't it? Maybe your ex has some unresolved issues that make them retreat. I'm skeptical about the whole "fearful avoidant" theory though... seems like a convenient label for inconsistent behavior; but who knows? Have you ever considered reaching out yourself to get closure or are you worried that'll just cycle back into the same pattern?

i totally get the vibe you're describing; it's like trying to solve a puzzle with missing pieces. those moments you shared were beautiful, but it sounds like they kept you on edge more than anything else. sometimes people just aren't ready or capable of giving us the stability we need, and it can be tough to navigate that uncertainty. as for them coming back, who knows? some folks need time away to figure themselves out; maybe they'll circle back when they're ready. meanwhile, taking care of yourself is key in this situation and focusing on what makes you happy might help ease the emotional roller coaster a bit.

ugh, that sounds exhausting. constantly trying to decipher someone else's intentions is like playing a game with no rules. i get being drawn back in by the good times too, but maybe it's worth considering how much of yourself you're investing only to end up with empty hands again?? i've had a situation where it felt like there was always this push and pull and honestly, sometimes letting go is the only way to regain some peace. who knows, maybe they'll reach out once they're more grounded, but do you really want to wait and place your life on hold that way?

Why waste your time?

ugh, the whole hot and cold routine is such a mind game, right? i had a similar thing with an ex where it really messed with my head. we’d have these epic marathons of meme-sharing and late-night food runs but then they'd vanish like those ice cream trucks you hear but can never find in summer. it's exhausting hanging onto hope when all you're getting back's radio silence. maybe they're doing their introspection journey or whatever, but waiting around isn't easy. fixating on whether they'll reach out again makes us feel stuck while they get to waltz in and out without thinking twice. try to focus on what makes you happy outside of them or you'll end up living for someone else's breadcrumbs.

Honestly, it sounds like you're stuck in an emotional loop where your expectations consistently clash with reality. It's tough, believing in those fleeting moments of connection only to have them dashed away suddenly; relationships like that can leave lasting psychological scars and drain one's emotional resources over time. While people talk about fearful avoidants coming back, it's important not to hang your hope entirely on that possibility. Pursuing personal growth and setting clear boundaries could be the way forward instead of waiting for their next move.

You know, I totally get where you're coming from; 🤔 relationships like that can leave you feeling caught in a loop of false hopes. It's almost like trying to unscramble a Rubik's Cube while blindfolded sometimes. Maybe it's worth considering the energy spent on these thoughts, though. Could it be better directed elsewhere? You deserve clarity and peace more than uncertainty and constant questioning.

ugh, it's so frustrating when someone plays emotional ping-pong with your heart like that; reminds me of my own past mess and waiting for them is just wasting precious time you could use to invest in yourself, ya know?

omg r u sure they're worth waitin 4? like do u really wanna go thru that circle over n over

ever feel like you're stuck in some emotional time loop, hoping one day it'll magically break and everything will make sense?

haha, i totally get it from your perspective and how maddening it can be when you're left in limbo like that but i'm curious, have you ever tried just straight up asking them what's going on or would that just rock the boat even more?

Maybe it's better?

i kinda get where you're coming from but isn't it better to move forward and find someone who won't keep playing these games? life's too short to keep waiting around hoping someone will change when they might not ever get there imo.