I want you to be happy but are you?
The story
hi I'm fox(19 female)
so about 1 years ago I joined a youth group for lgbt teenagers, there I got re-acquainted with a friend (firefly 21 male) I met 5-year prior. a couple weeks later he some of his friend(butterfly 21 female) & ( Hound Dog 21 male) joined the youth group . I'd seen both of his friends before but had never really talked to them , anyway we all became a friend group. that summer I got particular close to butterfly and I realise I really liked her and I wasn't sure if she felt the same way until, firefly told me he absolutely believed butterfly had a crush on me as well. so we went on flitting for at least 9 months. one day I was planning to meet up with her and talk her how I feel, so a week before I sent her a message as her if she was free to meet up, she didn't answer me for 2 months , of course after 1 week I asked the others if they had heard anything. Hound dog, said he hadn't heard anything, but firefly said that butterfly was just going through somethings and didn't really want to talk ( of course this hurt me a bit but anyway). over the next 3 months firefly keep reassuring me that it had not to do with me. in the 3rd month firefly eventually, told me and butterfly that we need to talk about because it was "effecting his mental health " ( side note I understand that this was a complete normal response if I had been as him question but he was the one who would ask me if butterfly had text me back. )
so butterfly and do have a conversation about it. from the conversation I understood why she didn't text me back. I had still have feelings for her and firefly knew this. so one day he said I don't think she ready for a relationship. which made sense until, not even a full month later he released he had feelings for butterfly. and they got into a relationship.
so I bit my tongue and pretend it didn't bother me.
now you maybe wondering what did Hound dog think about this hole situation. he completely agree and supported me. (side note: Hound Dog and firefly are no longer friend, has for me and firefly, well that complicated, you see firefly is the type of person who you feel like he'll get himself killed at any moment so I still want to keep an eye on him. ) so now comes the reason why I'm writing this,
2 day ago butterfly opened up to me about how she didn't feel good about the relationship and that she felt really low in energy when she around him.
for any you want to know yes I still have feelings for her but I'm suppressing them
So my question is what do I do?
if you have any questions please ask and I'll try to answer them in an update or in the comments.
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hey fox, thanks for sharing your story, it's so tough when feelings get all tangled up like that, isn't it? i can totally understand how you must feel a bit stuck in the middle; it's like a real emotional rollercoaster. sometimes life throws us into these complex situations, and it takes a lot of courage to confront them head-on. "relationships are like glass, sometimes it’s better to leave them broken than hurt yourself trying to put it back together," right? you being there for butterfly is really admirable, especially since you still have feelings for her, it shows real maturity on your part. maybe just keep the communication channels open with her, see how things evolve naturally; sometimes, just being a supportive friend is the best thing you can do. remember, your feelings are valid too, so take care of your own emotional health in the process; there's no shame in admitting things are complicated. wishing you the best in all this, hope everything works out for everyone involved!
hey fox, i get where you're coming from, but i gotta say, it seems like you're letting this situation weigh you down a bit too much; relationships are meant to add joy, not stress. it reminds me of when i was caught in a similar triangle and learned that sometimes you just have to let things go and focus on what makes you smile. ever heard the saying, "if you love something, set it free"? maybe it's time to apply that here. you deserve a relationship where both sides are equally invested. try to focus on uplifting yourself and enjoying the company of friends who bring positivity to your life. there's a whole big world out there, and sometimes a little distance gives everyone the clarity they need to figure things out. wishing you good vibes and better days ahead! 😊
Hi Fox! 😊 I completely understand where you're coming from. It's tough when strong feelings and friendships collide like this!!! Emotions can be so complicated, can't they? You handled yourself with real grace through this difficult situation, and that's something to be proud of; your feelings are super valid, and it's okay to acknowledge them. I think being honest with Butterfly while keeping a positive attitude is the way to go! Stay strong and hopeful for the good things the future holds!!! 🌟
Hey Fox, I gotta be real with you—this situation sounds like a bit of a mess. Are you sure you're not getting played by Firefly here? 😕 It seems like he wasn't totally upfront with his intentions. The whole thing with Butterfly is complicated, but you can't just keep hanging around hoping things will magically change. Trust me, "time waits for no one"; sometimes you gotta make a call and move on. It's not cool to put your life on hold for someone who's already in another relationship. Focus on your own happiness and maybe reconsider who you invest your time and energy in. Just saying.
sounds like a pretty intense situation you're in, fox. it's tough when emotions get intertwined like that 😅 i think you handled things pretty well, all things considered, and it's clear you care a lot about butterfly's well-being. maybe being open with her about your feelings can help bring some clarity. it might also be time to focus on yourself and your own happiness while letting things settle naturally. stay strong and positive!
hey guys it's fox thanks for the advice. I'm just trying to take a few steps back from the situation. because it feels like ever since butterfly has come back in my life, it been absolute chaos but probably make separate,posts about why soon.