why is kindness important?
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so i've got this friend, right? they're like the nicest person ever. i'm always scratching my head about why they're so keen on helping strangers all the time. even when life's throwing them curveballs left and right, there they are, lending a hand to someone they've never met before. it just blows my mind because if it were me, i'd probably be more focused on dealing with my own issues first before worrying about anyone else's stuff. i'm trying to see if there's some sort of secret sauce that makes kindness worth the hustle, especially when you’re running on fumes yourself.
now don’t get me wrong. it's cool that they’ve got that kind of drive but i can't help but wonder if there's a balance thing going on here or maybe some hidden perks that i'm not seeing. is there something super fulfilling about it for them? does it somehow make their own troubles feel lighter? or am i just clueless about how giving back works? either way, it's puzzling and fascinating at the same time. i mean... i totally get being nice is important but going out of your way to constantly do stuff for others when you've got a ton on your own plate seems pretty wild to me!
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I completely agree! Helping others actually boosts my mood too.
yeah my mom is like that she says it makes her day better.
Wow, that's some powerful dedication your friend has! 😮💨 I sometimes wonder if people like them feel like helping others gives their own struggles a sense of purpose or something; maybe they just naturally thrive on the good vibes of altruism. Personally, I've noticed that when I help someone out, it kinda takes my mind off my own problems for a while... it's like a mental break. But hey, just watching folks with that kind of spirit is inspiring in its own right!
It's interesting when you meet people like your friend who just have this endless drive to help others, especially strangers. Sometimes I think some folks just find a deep sense of purpose or satisfaction in giving back, even if their own life is chaotic. Maybe for them, it's less about balance and more about living in alignment with what feels right on an instinctual level. 🤔 It's kinda like that saying, "You make a living by what you get; you make a life by what you give." Maybe they feel more alive doing it. While it might seem puzzling to us, perhaps they're onto something about how we connect with the world.
Have you ever asked your friend directly why they do it? Sometimes people have personal motivations or experiences from the past that drive them to help others regardless of their situation. Maybe they gain something internally from these interactions that isn't immediately apparent to outside observers like us.
I haven't asked them yet, but maybe I should. It's probably some hidden wisdom they're sitting on or some life experience that I'm totally missing. Or maybe they're like a secret superhero and that's just their thing. 🤷♂️
man, i hear you; it's like watching a real-life superhero with no cape. while it seems wild to put others first constantly, some folks get this dopamine hit from helping others that we might not fully grasp. it's kinda like those people who run marathons for "fun" - sure, they feel good at the end but during the race they're suffering like everyone else; there's gotta be something deeply enriching in that struggle that's worth more than just checking off their own list of problems. maybe your friend gets something intangible out of it... like fulfillment or purpose. 🤔 still feels crazy to me though when you're practically drowning in your own chaos!
Yeah, it's like there's this whole other dimension to giving back that I'm just not tuned into. It's kinda cool to think about it as their version of running a marathon. Maybe I need to ask them directly about what they get out of it, though I still can't wrap my head around how they manage when life's so upside down!
i knw whatchu mean bt sometimes people just like being helpful
idk man maybe ur missing the point helping strangers doesnt have to be big gestures it could be small stuff too yknow like maybe bringing someone coffee or holding doors open sometimes its abt spreading good vibes not solving big problems?
Yeah, maybe you're right. Small stuff can make a difference too, I guess. But it still feels like a lot sometimes. Maybe those little things add up for them somehow. It’s just hard to wrap my head around why someone would keep doing it when their own life's going crazy.
Man, I totally feel you on this. It's like, maybe they're wired differently or something? Some people just seem to get a real kick out of being there for others. But yeah, juggling your own mess while dealing with everyone else's sounds intense. If it works for them, cool, but I'd be worried about burning out real fast doing that day in and day out.
it's interesting because sometimes i think people help out as a distraction from their own worries but then other times i think maybe they genuinely care more about others than themselves? not sure which one applies more often... but i've definitely seen both happen.
Your friend's dedication is definitely admirable, but I can't help but feel a bit skeptical when people are stretched so thin. It's like stretching yourself too much can lead to burnout if not managed well; maybe they've mastered finding energy through altruism in ways that many of us would struggle with. Ultimately, it'd be fascinating to understand if there's some internal recalibration happening for them, sort of where giving back somehow refuels them instead of draining their resources.
nah I dont think its dat deep ppl just wanna do gud.
hmm... i kinda see what you're saying but sometimes doing nice things for others can truly make us feel better inside ourselves too. it's like sharing happiness even if we're tired.
I understand where you're coming from and partly agree with you. While helping others can seem tiring when you're already exhausted, some individuals find solace in the act itself which might replenish their spirit rather than drain it further. However, it's crucial for them also to notice their limits and take care of themselves first.