Life Stories and Everyday Drama - page 2

Hey everyone, I'm a bit lost and would love some help. My son recently came out, and I'm trying to keep up with all the terminology in the LGBTQ+ community. I genuinely want to understand everything to ensure I'm fully supportive. 🌈 One thing that's confusing me right now is the difference between "gay" and "queer." I've done some reading, but I feel like I'm wading through a sea of terms. From what I've gathered, "gay" traditionally refers to someone who's attracted to people of the same gender, usually men attracted to men, but it's also used by women who are attracted to women. It's more about a direct definition related to sexual orientation. "Queer," on the other hand, seems a bit more complex; it feels to me like more of an umbrella term that can include not just sexual orientation but also gender identity and expression. It's as if "queer" allows for a fluidity and openness that "gay" might not.

I've read that "queer" used to be a slur but has been reclaimed by many in the LGBTQ+ community as a positive, empowering label. However, I've heard others say they still find it uncomfortable due to its past. How do people differentiate between them now, and when is it appropriate to use one term over the other? 🤔 To me, this feels like learning a new language from scratch, but I'm committed to getting it right. I want my son to know I respect him and anyone else he identifies with. I came across a book titled "Queer: A Graphic History" by Meg-John Barker recently. It gave me some insight into the broader spectrum of identities beyond gay or straight, but I still feel like there's so much more to understand. Have any of you experienced similar challenges trying to make sense of it all? I'd appreciate any suggestions on resources or perhaps anecdotes from your own journey in learning and adapting to the changing language around these identities.

Maybe I'm too "woke" or something but I can't bring myself to be mad at a woman. At all.

Throughout all my current years and childhood moving up into adulthood, I feel like i can't exactly be mad at a woman no matter what it is she does. Women gave gone through decades of suffering and being silenced, and they still are in a world where we're supposed to be helping them — aiding them.

I don't feel comfortable hating or kinkshaming a woman, but it's strange because I feel more than comfortable to kinkshame a man. Does this make sense to any of you? I'd defend women with my life as a man, but I wouldn't really care about men unless they're close to me.

In the same vein I feel horrible when I see a sad woman, but not so much for a man despite being a male myself. To me, their decades of suffering makes me feel like women do not deserve to suffer any longer just for being a woman — and that is true to me — men have been at the "top" for a while, so I suppose I switched things up and my brain isn't very lenient to them?

It's a strange train of thought that I'm not sure has any origin, is it a good thing? A bad thing?

My apologies I just needed to get some of it out.

Hey! I'm 25 years old woman living a very happily life with my husband of 5 years. We both are a great match. Best partners ever.

Last night i encounter a really unpleasing situation. My husband, the moment he woke up, opened his phone, i was still sleepy but i have a vague image that he open some chats, probably whatsapp and then he went to washroom. I clearly saw him not closing the recent tabs. Out of curiosity i opened his phone (which i never did), to check the recent tabs but there were no whatsapp tabs opens but all others recent open tabs were there. Me and my husband never doubted each other. He is very caring and loving husband but out of no where i started doubting him. I think he has a user mode in his phone ( as he is using google pixel 7). This all situation making me crazy I don't know what to do. Should dig into this matter?

so hey guys, i just wanted to share something that’s been on my mind for a while. you ever just sit there and wonder about your identity like, all existential and stuff? well, lately, i've been thinking, "am i trans?" 🌈 and let me tell ya, it’s like my brain’s been in overdrive (lol). you get these niggling thoughts and start questioning stuff you’ve never even considered before. it's kind of like when Socrates was all about "knowing thyself" and i'm sitting here trying to figure out, you know, me, myself and i. 😅

so, hear me out. like, growing up, i never really felt out of place or anything, but now and then i’d get these vibes like, “man, this just doesn’t fit”, and i kinda brushed them off, honestly. it’s not like i saw myself in the mirror and thought, hey, that’s not me, but there's always been something simmering beneath the surface. i guess it’s like when you wear an itchy sweater, and you’re just living with it, ‘cause, i dunno, it keeps you warm. 🧥 but then, you start to wonder, "is there a cozier option out there, something that fits just right without the itch?" anyone ever feel that?

and then you hit the internet, start reading about different experiences, stories, and you’re like, “wait, other people felt this way too?” you know those late-night deep dives into the Wikipedia abyss, lol. and suddenly you find yourself knee-deep in blogs, forums, and stories that resonate; like, seriously, people's honesty is just stunning and it’s like having a casual chat with strangers who seem to get what you’re going through. it’s like that Ted Talk moment, where someone articulates exactly what’s been floating around in your head but you never found the words. could that really be me, though? i keep thinking, "should i even be feeling this way?"

i guess what i’m saying is that it’s intimidating but also kinda intriguing, trying to navigate these waters. and i figure this whole self-discovery thing isn’t meant to be rushed, right? maybe it’s a journey where i learn more as i go along, and maybe it's fine to be uncertain and as long as i'm polite and respectful about where i end up, that’s what matters. besides, life’s too short to not question everything, and who knows, maybe there’ll be a point where things become clearer. or maybe not, i dunno. 🤷‍♂️ anyway, have any of you guys been through this kind of thing, or got tips for someone who’s sort of in the same boat? no pressure, i'm open to hearing what you think, just trying to figure this all out; thanks for tuning into my vent!

Living together with my boyfriend for the past month has been a roller coaster of emotions, mostly on the positive side, as we've both been discovering new aspects of one another. Our relationship is pretty solid, and there's a strong foundation of love and mutual respect. 😊 However, I've found myself pondering recently about one aspect that seems to be slightly out of sync between us: sex. It appears that my boyfriend is significantly more interested in it than I am. It's not that I don't enjoy it, but my desire doesn't match up with his; it sometimes makes me wonder why sex holds such importance in relationships anyway.

We've been dating for six months now and made the big decision to live together a month ago. Overall, it's been fantastic! But this mismatch in our sexual drives is starting to make me question... what role does sex truly play in a relationship?! It feels like it's this universally accepted notion that sex is crucial, and I'm curious if it's really a make-or-break factor. Can't a loving relationship thrive without constantly focusing on this particular aspect? Or does it somehow strengthen the bond between partners? 🤔

I often feel guilty when I turn down my boyfriend's advances, even when I've had a long, exhausting day. His persistence makes me feel as if I'm letting him down, and I don’t want him to think I'm not attracted to him because that’s definitely not the case. We've talked about it, and he’s always kind and understanding, but I can't shake off the feeling that we're out of sync when it comes to our physical needs. It's got me pondering whether a relationship can still be strong if one partner's interest in sex doesn't align with the other's??... how do people handle discrepancies in desire while keeping things balanced and happy?!!

I'm hopeful that this isn't something that will drive us apart. In fact, I'm determined for it not to!!! Exploring this aspect of our relationship is a learning process. Maybe our focus should be on understanding and compromising rather than stressing over the differences. While I'm figuring this out, I’d love to hear from you guys... do you think sex is the ultimate glue in a relationship, or is it just one piece of the puzzle? The journey of understanding each other's needs better is ongoing, and I'm keen to keep nurturing this loving relationship into something that's long-lasting and fulfilling for both of us. 🌟

Everyone in my school hates me now, I started this new school and I ended up dating this girls ex and I ended up causing half the school to hate me, now I get bullied over and over again by people and all my friends keep going to other schools, not only that but my depression is coming back and I feel like I can't talk to anybody because nobody wants to listen.

My parents won't get me a therapist when I know I need one. I'm unable to get diagnosed with anything because I'm too young and it's always just "hormones" ugh I wish someone would just listen to me

I don't plan on being around much longer, I don't see the point of it, I'm so tired of everything, the bullying, the mood swings, I've had this idea in my head for ages now, one where I don't wanna be here anymore, I've tried before, multiple times and it's never worked, I just want it to work or for me to get better, I don't know what to do but I'm so tired of being here.

Hi, so I met my group of friends in middle school, and we always got along really well, but since high school, I feel like there's already a favorite and that I'm the one who's being ignored more and more. And when I say something or remove myself from the online group, they don't even bother to add me back. Every day I have hope of seeing them at school, but I'm constantly alone. They ignore me and completely avoid me, and they don't even come to ask how I am. And when I do find them, I either feel hated or completely ignored.

i... dont even know what to do at this point. everything has been stagnant lately. no matter how much i suffer, or how much i try to change something, it all remains stuck in one spot. ive tried so many things, but none worked...

i have diagnosed clinical moderate depression and anxiety, alongside minor degree of ocd. this is awful. im so tired.

i dont have friends, even though ive tried to strike up a conversation or befriend someone 17 FUCKING TIMES in real life, countless more on the internet. among the hundreds of epople ive talked to, you can count those i liked with your two hands.

i dont have hobbies, even though ive tried to draw 7 times and learn 5 languages, all in different time periods. no matter the effort, or approach, it all vanished in a span of a week or two.

i dont feel like i belong anywhere, even though im present in one online community with great people there that make me smile.

i dont get good grades at school, even though ive tried a whole list of methods on dealing with procrastination, be it scheduling or gathering all willpower thats left. nothing works.

i would feel guilty. only if i could even feel things at all anymore. people around me are great, my mother, my teachers - they are all nice, they try to accomodate for me, but i feel worthless for not even being able to do even the most basic of tasks.

i feel so hollow. i just want to feel again. it hasnt always been thus. i remember the days when i cried. a lot. for even the most insignificant of things. its not anymore. i miss those times. i want to go back. i cant cry anymore. even if i want to. i want to cry almost everyday.

ive hurt people. im so sick of this evil side to me - horny, lustful, freaky, whatever you call it. it all began when my "friend" showed me porn at 4 years old. this experience has changed me a lot. mostly for the worse. i dont like this part, but without it i cant truly feel appreciated and free. with it, i can only experience anxiousness for people that those actions may damage.

i get help. psychologists, therapists, psychiatrists. i take prescribed antidepressants. i dont feel like there are any changes, no matter how much i try.

ive been lacking someone to talk to about everything. life, problems, in general, lately. i have no one to vent to. or talk to for that matter. people seem so superficial, and its me whos the "different" one. they are "normal".

i beg for help. i reach out to those who may give me comfort. its rarely reciprocated.

i have such big capacity to love, care, comfort others. and i do that! whenever someone is in pain i make sure to let them known im there for them if they need someone to talk to. projection, isnt it? i offer others something i could not have. selfless. awesome. i have so many great qualities, but for some reason i can never find anyone to be friends with. am i worse than everyone else? or better? or just different?

im so tired. i dont know what to do, i just want all this numbness to end, i want to feel and live again. this existence is torment. help me please

i dont even know if this makes sence, but i keep thinking about how to stop masterburation on memory, like not even the act only, but the stupid replay of it in my head. it feels like my brain saved every bad habbit in hd and plays it when i am bored, sad, lonely, or just lying there at night like a loser. i tell myself “ok this is the last time,” and then the next day my mind is already making little excuses. it is so dumb becuase nobody is forcing me, but it still feels like i am being dragged by my own head.

i tried deleting stuff, blocking sites, even putting my phone far away, and yeah it works for maybe two days. then the memory part starts. like i dont need to see anything, my brain just remembers it, and that is the part that makes me feel kinda hopeless. have you ever had something you dont want to think about, but the more you fight it, the louder it gets? thats how it is for me. i start thinking maybe i am broken, but then i also know im probably just stuck in a loop. i dont think shame helps much, but i still feel it anyway, which is annoying as hell.

the only thing that kinda helps is not acting like i can magically fix my whole brain in one night. i try to get up, drink water, walk around, play a game, or text someone about random stuff before the memory gets too strong. sometimes i fail and feel like trash after, but sometimes i dont, and those times matter a little. i dont have some perfect answer. i just think stopping “on memory” means building new boring memories over the old ones, again and again, even when it feels fake. maybe thats all self control is, just being tired and still choosing not to make it worse.

I’m 18, I’m a guy, and I have no damn clue what I’m doing after this. People keep asking me about my “goals for the future” like I’m supposed to pull out a clean little answer from my pocket. I dont have one. I don’t know what to study, because every subject feels like a trap. Pick tech? Cool, AI is eating that. Pick art? AI is eating that too. Pick writing, design, coding, business, anything creative, anything office-related? Same story. I know people say, “AI won’t replace everyone,” and maybe they’re right, but it still feels stupid to plan my whole life around jobs that might not even exist in a few years.

I also don’t know if I want a family. Sometimes I think having someone and maybe kids could be nice, like there’s a real point to all this boring grinding. Other times I look at adults around me and think, wow, alot of you look tired as hell. I’ve seen couples who love each other but barely talk because bills, work, stress, and life turned them into roommates. I’ve seen parents who clearly care about their kids but also look like they want to vanish for a week. I’m not judging them. Life is hard, and people do their best. But when someone asks me if I want that future, I don’t know what to say. I can’t even decide what to eat half the time, and I’m supposed to know if I want to raise a whole human?

The thing is, I’m not lazy, at least I don’t think I am. I’ve worked small jobs, helped family, tried to be useful, tried to make plans. I had teachers tell me I was smart, and I had others look at me like I was already wasting my life. My freinds seem to be moving in some direction, even if they’re faking it. One wants to study engineering, one wants money, one wants to move away, one just wants peace. I want peace too, but peace isn’t a career. I want to beleive there’s something I’ll find and care about, but right now it feels like everyone is just pretending certainty is normal. Maybe confidence is just a costume people wear so nobody notices they’re scared.

I guess my “goal” is to not completely screw myself over, wich is not exactly inspiring. I want to stay healthy, not become bitter, not waste every day scrolling, not end up stuck in some miserable enviroment where I hate waking up. I want to learn something useful, even if I don’t know what that is yet. I want to meet people who aren’t fake, maybe love someone, maybe not, maybe have kids, maybe never. I don’t have a neat answer, and maybe that’s fine, but it still feels like shit when everyone acts like I should. So what are you supposed to do at 18 when the future looks open, but also kind of empty? Maybe I’ll figure it out definately, maybe I won’t, but I’m tired of acting like being lost means I’m broken;

I am 17 and an oldest daughter. I have always tried my hardest to be a good kid. I get all of my chores done, I do my homework, I take college classes, I help out around the house all the time with cleaning, making dinner, taking care of my siblings, getting them to school on time, and take care of the animals. I have no problem helping out, and picking up tasks that someone else doesn't have time to do, or is too tired to do. I do it without complaining or making a big deal of it. I just get it done. lately I have hardly had any free time. I never get to sit down and actually do something I enjoy without being interrupted. and I don't think I have gotten a full night of sleep in months. my family knows that I get loads of homework, and they know that i am in the middle of my final week for my online college class. they also know that if they don't want to do something, they can make me do it. late I have just been feeling exhausted. I want to help out, but by the time I am done with jobs around the house, I have very little time, and no energy left to get my homework done. I come home, and I do all of my jobs, and as soon as I try to start working on my homework, I get handed a list of other jobs to do. I am not allowed to fight back on those requests, so I do it. I can't help but feel like my family is asking too much of me. they have started to expect me to be able to give 110 percent of myself all the time, and I just can't do it anymore. but I also can't fight back and say no because then I am not a good kid anymore, and then I am nothing. I want so desperately to be the perfect kid. I wonder if it's because I subconsciously believe that if I become the perfect daughter, then I will finally be appreciated. but it seems like no matter how much of myself that i give, and no matter how hard I try, it will never be enough. they will always expect more from me. even when I have nothing left to give. so I try my best to ignore my exhaustion that is always there, and keep going. I just don't know if it will ever be enough, but I don't know how to be anything other than the good kid who doesn't really need worried about or taken care of. even though what I long for the most some nights is for someone to take care of me. but how are the people in my family supposed to take care of me, if they can barely care for themselves? I am just so tired, and I want to be able to do the things that I enjoy doing again. I want to be able to go hang out with my friends every once in a while without being made to feel guilty about not being home to help out. how am I supposed to keep going, and giving more of myself, if I have nothing left to give? how can I find peace and time for myself again without feeling like a terrible daughter?

Hello, today I want to share some of my stories, I don't know who or where to share with so I want to share it online, have you guys ever been get misunderstood by your own family? Like your family don't trust your study, even you're study very hard to get a better future and to keep their pride and imagine but all they see is you're always playing game or lazy, even though I barely playing game, I did play but only when I feel tired, stressed or left out, and they blame me for doing it and said I always say I'm study but they never seen, and the worst is when you have to study overtime until 2-3am but to them you're just playing game lying about you're study, sometimes i'm so toxic in school already but when I go home I get blame more, and sometimes I just want a cheerful from them so I have more motivated to study but they didn't do that to me, they always say I'm their hope but they didn't cheers me up but always drain me down, and they always say I'm a selfish person, and as a bad grade student I tried so hard to study and yet I still failed one subject and they took this as a problem and blame me if I study harder more maybe I don't failed and yesterday when my team project are all depends on me, I was so tired and stressed and after hearing this I was so toxic so I can't control myself and hit my pillow to release my pressured but when they saw that instead of comforting me, they blame me and said if studying is that hard then just stop and go to work you dumbass, and destroy my set up, and they said I never work so all of those stuff is their money not mine, I want to explain but I don't know why I can't, I just stand still and listen and my eyes started to cry for no reason, they say they never force me to study this hard at 2-3am but they said I'm the only hope, and because I don't want to disappoint them, I force myself to do it, and in return I got that instead, and this is not the first time, it's been since I was a kid, when I get top1 in the class, the best presenter, they ignore it and said it's nothing special, and when I'm in presentation, other parents come to see their children but I'm alone and even worst when I graduate from high school, I'm watching other parents come to their children graduation and take a picture with them and smile, while I just going alone and then go home, when I ask why they didn't come, they said come there only wasted their time and money, they have to work to get more money and I just stay silent and didn't respond anything after that day, I think I'm just an useless son in that house no matter how hard I tried.

i care for one of my friends greatly, and i really do love being friends with them, but i also feel a deep-rooted hatred toward them.

i've realized their actions toward me are negative, and i hate how ive been treated, but i still feel a close connection. this hatred with how ive been treated has turned into hatred for them in general, and i feel very guilty for it.

how can i get past this, or explain it to them, without sounding like a bad person?

im a kid. im not even close to being an adult. im the middle child. i can be quite picky with my food, so the whole day i didn't eat because i really disliked soupy pork and thats what we had to eat dinner for last night and breakfast and lunch then dinner and the day today is almost ending, i kept asking my mom if i could eat maybe canned tuna, or just an egg, anything else. she refused, she kept telling me to learn how to eat what's on the table and i didn't eat until 9 pm when i ordered mcdonalds with my OWN money, my little brother wanted food too so i added chicken nuggets so we could share, though i didnt add fries since my money wasnt enough. the food arrived and i called him down. he cried bc i didnt order fries, and he told our mom. i js went down and ate my food since i was rlly hungry and hadnt ate the whole day, and once i got upstairs to my mom's room since thats where i left my device, she started saying " you're really selfish, aren't you?" and i said huh? i asked him if he wanted chicken nuggets, he said yes. idk why he changed his mind. she then proceeded to call me more names and really wanted to let me know i am selfish 😂 i said " the fries were expensive, i couldn't add it since i didn't have enough money?? " and i js sat there on my phone, when she started mumbling to herself stuff like how she wouldn't feed me anymore, saying she'd feed me the wrappers if i left a mess, how im completelt selfihs and only think about myself. i js left the room, and now im sobbing in my room cause she really spammed the selfish button lmaoo. she then went down to scope the wholee floor downstairs to see if i had left a mess, but i left the kitchen light on which we always do. she proceeded to yell. im so tired of this, she porbablt doesnt even love me at all and is just forced to because she has me as her daughter

i had a very bad breakup with my boyfriend who im very much still in love with, and he broke up with me because a picture of megot leaked from a couple years ago, and basically told me im gross and embarrsing and some not nice names for girls, and after everything was weird, i still miss him so much, andd theres only 30 people in my school and any of my friends are his, and theres a girl whos best friends with him, and theyd never be together but shes is sooo touchy with him, and always showing him other girls in my face, and talks badly about me again TO MY FACE, making it even weirder for me and him, and last night we had a party for my friends birthday and everyone was very drunk, i had to go and got a boy i didnt want to kiss but i still did from pressure but it was only a small peck and is thrown away, but my ex landed on my best friend and they actually started making out in my face and i couldnt stop crying and he doesnt care about me at all but i still love him?? lol

does this not sound like its from a highschool tv show ??